Do I Message Him Or Wait For Him?

[abbeylee90]

I meant to be going on my date on Saturday after bottomless brunch but do I message or wait for him?

[Redhelen72]

You need to get a proper diagnosis before thinking about counselling 

[Redhelen72]

Fymmi go and find another victim 

[wolf63]

Immyfanny, 

Be nice or be silent!  Or is being nasty your default setting on AB?

 

[pastafreak]

Mod...you forgot the one at 19:25. Could you remove it please?

[Toorak]

...and the one at 18.34 

[jourdain2]

Abby, please don't worry about this man, or feel in any way 'done down'.  He wasn't sure and t.b.h. he was cowardly in not letting you know that he'd changed his mind about meeting up.  His loss, not yours.

This is where on-line stuff falls down.  You need  to get out and about with people - not just a gang of women - and build a wider society and interests.  You never know where that may lead.

I repeat, don't let this chap, who is so insecure and  indecisive, worry you.  Smile now, please.  😃

[Hazlinny]

Following on from Jourdain  ... Abbey .. do you ever go to the Gym or Swimming Pool - quite good places to meet other people - male and female.  

[abbeylee90]

Joud not thar simple.

I go dog walking 🐕

[Barmaid]

Abbey, dont let someone who let you down get you down.  He is obviously not right for you and you deserve much better.

Forget him. His loss. Dust yourself down, and tell yourself that you don't mind and he doesn't matter.

[abbeylee90]

Thanks I've unfollowed him on Instagram.

I did enjoy brunch thanks 😊 

[abbeylee90]

Doubt I'll ever find the one 😔

[Neveracrossword]

Abbey, you're what, 31? If you were 91, yes, you might not find 'the one', but there's plenty of time left. If you start to sound desperate, you'll come across as being desperate... and that might put many guys off! I think you should do what you can to get yourself a better life, a better life in all sorts of areas... employment would be a decent start. 

[abbeylee90]

And pass my test

[jourdain2]

NCW's right. These are your priorities:-

1) Doctor's appointment to get firm diagnosis and any help you can.

2) A steady job which does not make you unhappy.

3) Learning to drive.

 

 

[Prudie]

Do you tell your mother, who you live with, all the advice you get on this site? Does she have any views on you being told to get medically assessed as if that is the root of all your problems or are you not close? If my daughter was being told by loads of people online that she needs medical asessment on her cognitive abilities I'd feel embarrassed that I hadn't done it myself. Particularly because after 31 years surely your mother knows what you can and cannot do and why?

[abbeylee90]

She does and said its do with my condition 

[abbeylee90]

Well I've switched manual to auto as my previous instructor said driving wasn't for me so trying auto

[pastafreak]

You need to speak to your mum and tell her you want to get help with your condition...and not continue as you have been. There is no reason you can't progress and improve your situation...but you'll have to work hard at it. Maybe if your mum is more involved you can make progress in the right direction. I'm frankly surprised mum doesn't seem to have done more.

[abbeylee90]

She said speak to a careers advisor before and it's my dyspraxia