Do I Message Him Or Wait For Him?

[abbeylee90]

I meant to be going on my date on Saturday after bottomless brunch but do I message or wait for him?

[Redhelen72]

If she goes to the dr and gets help then she will no longer have something to blame!

you said at 30 yo should have a partner and that you don't want to be like that man!

well you will never be like that man because he had the gumption to stand up and move on!

[DTCwordfan]

Me thinks Prince Andrew is stalking you......your choice....

[Redhelen72]

The reason you don't have a boyfriend is you come across as needy and desperate 

[abbeylee90]

I mean as in he hasn't got a wife or kids so he never settled

[abbeylee90]

Don't speak to guys to be needy and desperate.

[Redhelen72]

Your right he didn't settle for second best!

he didn't find the love of his life and decided that he didn't want anything but the best!

I actually admire that.

[Neveracrossword]

Abbey, if (and only if) someone is depressed, they might not be able to show the personality, the character they'd otherwise have. Would YOU have gone out with yourself, would you have picked yourself, over the last six, nine months?

[scorpiojo]

Perhaps he didn't want to settle, Abbey?

[scorpiojo]

I wouldn't suggest asking your GP why you don't have a boyfriend.

[abbeylee90]

I distance myself from him now.

Now no but couple of years ago yes that why something don't feel right.

[Redhelen72]

Eh ? What?

[Neveracrossword]

Abbey, does that have any bearing on what you could be doing with your life? Are you reluctant to facing up to things, tackling them? 

[abbeylee90]

From the man and I meant years ago might have gone out with myself.

Yes I am 

[Redhelen72]

You sound 12! 
petulent and attention seeking 

[abbeylee90]

Well you asked that

[Neveracrossword]

Abbey, I know you like bogging yourself down in loads of little details that are ... basically irrelevant to the state of your life. Until you decide you want to do something about that, these discussions will go absolutely nowhere (like they did six months ago, when others tried to help you). 

[newmodarmy]

"Now no but couple of years ago yes that why something don't feel right.

From the man and I meant years ago might have gone out with myself.

Yes I am "

Sorry abbey, but you're not thinking through what you're typing and checking it makes any sort of sense

[lankeela]

Why can't you all understand that Abbey is not capable of doing all these things you are telling her to do?  For someone with special needs its not just a case of telling them something and expecting them to be able to do it, whether it is decide what sort of work you want to do, or where you want to be in five years time - Abbey is unable to make certain decisions not because she is just indecisive but because she is incapable due to whatever her particular problem is.  In short, she does not know what she wants and forcing her to make a decision won't ever solve that problem.  Please stop giving her a hard time, as it must be very frustrating for her and only serves to make her more uncertain what she should be doing.  Abbey is not like most people on here.   She will never be able to do some of the things people are expecting of her.  Abbey I hope you take this in the spirit it is intended, and that people lay off trying to get you to fall in with what they say.  

[newmodarmy]

 lankeela- do you suggest we simply stop responding/trying to help abbey

[Redhelen72]

Lankleela she can respond very well when she wants too!

there is more cotton here than you think there is.