boyfriends son

[gina32]

my daughter is pregnant and due any day she has a 3 year old son already and her partner has a son who is 2 in october, the partner has his son thurs, fri sat and all day sunday, staying over each night, the mum has now said she is to tired to look after him and wants his dad to have him full time, my daughter is so stressed she doesnt know what to do, she has a 2 bed house and so doesnt really have the room anyway, my daughter works fulltime and is at the moment on maternity leave but will go back to work in dec, she feels she is being selfish by saying no to the boy fulltime, what do others think?

[bloke]

hello again,i am sorry for my last answer,i was annoyed by all that i read. i am the boys father,and i love him more then the world,just as his mother does. i'd love him to live with me and my partner has known this from the start,so it shouldnt have come as much as a shock as it did. my sons mother believes he would be happier living with me as shes being stessy wit him and not coping very well,which i am very confident that i would. and yes having a baby is very stressfull,but i dont see how much different it would be to havin my partners son with us now. and as far as room goes,having him full time is surely no different to having him now?

[gina32]

having him for a few days/ nights a week is different than having him full time as i said before more clothes more toys less room, if you think about it its like staying at a hotel, its ok for a week or two but could you move your whole world there forever, i doubt it,, maybe you should be thinking about going to the council and hounding them all day every day until they finallyly give in and give you a bigger house, that would be a start wouldnt it, im sure your partner is living on her hormones at the minute and thinks that this is the wrong time just as she is about to give birth, have you talked to the boys mother to find out why she is so stressy with your son, maybe something could be worked out, if this goes ahead are you going to have full custody of your son and what arrangements will the mother have for seeing him if he does move?

[soapbox32]

hi there as i see it the boy clearly loves his son regardless of the sons mother and what she does or doesnt do.if he wants his son to live with him then he should without question and just because the boy moved into your daughters house doesnt mean he hasnt had to take on her son ... of course he has. it seems to me you are just interfering in ther relationship but out and let them sort it out themselves

[beverleymot]

i dont think ur butting in gina32 u obv care for ur daughters well being as much as he cares for his son

[gina32]

soapbox, he knew when he moved in that my daughter had a son living with her, and she knew that he had a son not living with him, so yes he did take on my grandson and no she didnt take on his son full time. did i say id said any of this to my daughter?? NO, so im not butting in at all, i was curious as to other peoples opinion.

[Jillius]

Gosh, what a predicament. I feel very sorry for your daughter. She will certainly have her hands full. Does she have any motherly feelings for her boyfriend's little boy ?
I think if she does have him to live with them it would have to be on her terms. His mother can't keep interfering or it will upset the little chap. At that age he needs a stable sort of life. Good luck to her xx