Hi sharkie,
So sorry to hear of your dilemma, If you want this baby keep it, otherwise you will regret it for the rest of your life and I can assure if you your relationship will suffer, you won't be together, because if you do have the operation it will be your partner that you will blame and a relationship do not survive on blames. I've had to have two terminations, my was life threatening because of my gynae problems but believe me I still regret it and I will do so for the rest of my life, because the registrar gave me the options of staying in the hospital and rest until full time, i was only 11 weeks pregnant then, but i had my 7 months old baby to think of , he was already born prematurely and only had 50% chance of survival. I know my situations is a vast difference from yours, but think carefully before you go ahead with this termination, your partner obviously still immature he is not ready for fatherhood, but you are, go for what your mind, body and soul tells you, only YOU can answer this question and whatever answer you get go with it. perhaps if you do go ahead and have the baby and when your partner see his child he would probably be happy that you went through with the pregnancy, it appear to me he is very scare, men are always scared of pregnancy so it's not a new thing.
anyway think carefully and think of what you want and do not feel guilty what ever decision you choose.
Best of luck
helena