single mum

[carliex]

im 21 i have a 9month old baby girl who i love more than anything in the world! im finding it so hard! all my friends are in ibiza at the min n there always off sumwhere n out every weekend and becus i didnt do this i lost contact so the past month iv been out every weekend friday and saturday! while mum has my daughter and now its got to the point where i cant be alone! this is the first nite iv been alone in a month and i feel sick like some one has punched me in the stomach! i havent got the patience with lillie like i used to have! if she is frustrated about her teething then i get frustrated aswel and i break down and cry thikning please leave me alone! then when i calm down i look at her and think how could i think that shes my princess and the best thing in the world to me! i feel like im going mad! im drinking alot at the weekend so much i cant get out of bed then i feel guilty and miss her sooo much! iv not really got any1 to talk to and i really feel like im going mad! im tired and dizzy sick everyday iv no energy! has any1 ever felt like this am i going mad?

[pinktwink]

have you spoke to your gp. What about local mother and toddler groups for support. it is best to seek help so you can begin to feel betetr

[k8bailey]

I take it you left your partner? I'm sorry you couldn't work things out, but that doesn't mean that you can't both be fantastic parents seperately.

Are you still on anti-depressants for the PND? They really won't mix well with alcohol, as I'm sure you aready know.

Are you eating properly at the moment? if not, that could cause sickness ad dizziness. I know that with a little one to look after, food maybe the the last thing on your mind at times, but it is important to look after yourself.

Pinktwink made some really good suggestions - you've been through a lot, so maybe you do need to go back to your GP or HV and be honest. The mother and baby groups could also be a good idea, in my area there is one specially for mums who are under 23, and it could be a way of making new friends as it sounds like your mates don't really understand what you're going through. I know it's a cliche but having kids changes your life, your priorities and you - I don't think that anyone without kids can fully appreciate that.

Do you get out much during the day? I work in a college part time but during the 10 week summer holiday I began to feel like I couldn't cope with my little one - we were both snapping at each other, because we were stuck in the house all day everyday, just the two of us and we were both bored, as soon as we went out and did something (even simple things like taking our dinner to the park or walking around the block) we started to get on much better again!

Anyway enough of me rambling! Hope you're feeling better soon x

[didghtara]

Oh i just want to give you a big hug - I'm a single mum to (im 23) and my daughter is 2 in October, i think you need to speak to a GP about this, it is hard to ajust at first to things, but you'll find the strengh...I do hope you get things sorted, x x x

[LittleMissxx]

.You wont like this but its no picnic being a mum. But that little girl didn't ask to be here and deserves better. You may well have PND but get it sorted. Life aint over , its just on hold for a few years. If you can accept that you will enjoy her a whole lot more. I speak from experience. I was on my own with two, we were homeless and went through some terrible times. They are older now and believe me it dosen't get any easier. At times I wonder what its all about but fact is when your a mum your selfish side has to get left behind. I have a baby now and boy what a shock to the system, back to not going anywhere , not a second to myself etc, but i made my bed i will lie in it. And i think sometimes by telling yourself its not for ever, honestly u do enjoy them more. He is gorgeous, very challenging but i wouldnt' be without him, and certainly not trade him for a night on the lash.