Adoption

[pericat]

I had a thread about this a few months back, is anyone around who answered me on it ?

[sara3]

me!

[tonyav]

No.

[pericat]

Hi sara - was hoping you were there - she is in hospital having baby 1 month early - do you remember the background

[pericat]

its not that i dont want to say it - it would just take ages

[sara3]

I do.. gosh, an early baby. is he there too?
are you okay?

[pericat]

i have to go and have dinner and put up a pretence with the girls here as they know nothing - will be back on later - basically my son doesnt know what to do - she is not having baby adopted - if you remember she is older and has 2 kids already - she has given him the option to be there - I am leaving him to make decision - he is still having problems - i am in bits - will be back later

[pericat]

she only told him yesterday about the adoption -

[pericat]

Im going now but i just dont know whether to get involved but if i do he wont be taking full responsibility and he needs to do this or decide himself what to do - talk later

[sara3]

I told you she'd change her mind!

I think your son should go but not necessarily for the birth. it would be a show of support/interest if he shows his face some time soon.

give me a shout later x

[pericat]

yep i think so but i want him to make up his own mind - he never does about anything and now life has presented him with a situation where he has to and I dont want to jump in -

[dothawkes31]

damned if you do damned if you don't , but i would go with your maternal instincts and tell him what he should be doing.

[pericat]

I dont know dot - he has depression problems, problems taking responsibility - he has had the worst year imaginable - he is going to a counsellor and im in close contact with her. I dont want to jump in and take responsibility away - he has to grow up. I dont know if you saw my last thread

[pericat]

at the moment I am trying very hard not to be upset and Im very worried

[tonyav]

peri, speaking from a males point of view ( and I'm being serious now ) he is now a man, let him make his own decision on this. and you stand by him every step of the way.

[pericat]

thanks tony - thats what Ive told him - it might help if you read the original - i cant post that - will tell you where it is

[pericat]

ok i originally posted in Parenting on 17th sept around 9 pm - i dont know how to copy thread but it will give you more of a background

[tonyav]

Tell me where it is peri.

[tonyav]

peri, I cant find it !

[pericat]

how do i post a link - because I can get to it through my profile

[pericat]

did you go into parenting - not just into family