how can i get it into my dads head . . .

[mollykins]

. . . that whenever I go on trips with cadets we get joining isntructions the week before we go.

I try explaining it to him and he just gets angry saying 'just get them' 'ask them for them' but I did once before and cadets jsut got annoyed with me then dad got angry with me and said 'right i'm going up there and getting them if you can't be ar55ed.' But mum whose on the commitee explained that often they don't recieve joining instructions from the people organising it until a week before and everyone gets them at the same time. But he's still getting angry saying if I can't be ar55ed he'll go up there himself, which is pointless and he'll jsut embarass us.

What can I do?

[ChuckFickens]

"how can i get it into my dads head . . "

Hammer drill?

[Bobbisox]

ask your Mum to tell your Dad she will get them for you when they are ready to be distributed Molly

[mollykins]

Honestly, you wouldn't believe how angry he gets if i'm going 5 miles away for a day with the cadets and he hasn't got joining instruction about a month in advance.

[mollykins]

Bobbi we tell him that they distribute them as soon as they get them but he won't believe us. We can't give him something that hasn't been created and decided upon yet.

[Bobbisox]

he's protective !

[Bobbisox]

have you told him he is embarrassing you?

[mollykins]

red we know when trips will be its just that normally day, or weekend trips we are given exact details at least a week before, if you are going a long way for a longer time (which i've only done once,) we are given two weeks or so.

[mollykins]

He doesn't care bobbi, he's a control freak. Anyway it rarely stops him from doing anything, mums on the committee so it's her that occaisionaly drives a group of us, she doesn't mind - we know the dates and rough times well in advance.

[Bobbisox]

redhelen, you just beat me to it pet...
Molly I bet you have really nice parents who just look out for their little girl?

[mollykins]

because I need to find a way of getting it into his thick, stubborn , controlling mind that they always do this and they give us the details as soon as they get them but he starts swearing at me and all sorts if I don't have them soon enough for him.

[B00]

Warn the cadets that you're dad's about to "become an ar$e again" and leave him to it. You are never going to be able to convince your dad, especially if your mums involved and he still insists on being a burk.

Just prewarn them, and laugh about it with them- nowt else you can do about it.

Short answer- nothing you can do. So leave it.

[Bobbisox]

if my daughter who is 39 today incidentally, referred to me as having a thick head, I would giver her a clout, as big as she is..

[mollykins]

They've done it across the country for years. I don't dare talk to him like this and it all vents up inside me and I have to let it go, at least i don't take my anger out on you lot.

[Bobbisox]

Morning Nanna, hows little Lucas?

[mollykins]

But I end up getting in trouble with for 'not telling him that we give joining instructions out as soon as we get them.' I don't want to fall out with the comanding officer else i'll never be a leading cadet.