When Will My Father Grow Up?

[halismith2005]

I just turned 18 years old, and I live with my father and stepmother. Things aren't good.  Six months ago, My father quit his job, he is refusing to get a job. My stepmother is working full-time. My stays home all day drinking, he won't help out around the house.  He stole  money from my stepmother's Wallet, and she had to put a code on her cash app to keep him from sending himself money. Last month he took the money for the house payment.  Last night My stepmother flipped out on me when I told that I was quitting school and getting my GED, so I get a full-time job to help pay bills, she yelled it's not your responsibility to pay our bills, and Yelled You're finishing school. My father chimed and said it was a great idea that I needed to help more than already do. I have a part-time job, he said it wasn't cutting it. That caused an argument and my stepmother told my father to leave. My father wanted me to leave with him but, my stepmother, told I didn't have to go with him.  He went to my grandmother's house. My grandmother called me and blamed me for my father's problems.  I have trying to help my stepmother with the bills with my paycheck. 

[naomi24]

Welcome to the AnswerBank, halismith2005.  I see you have posted a duplicate in another section so I will remove that one.  

[Redhelen72]

I don't think it's a case of he needs to grow up it sounds like he has issues with alcohol and possibly depression.

have a quiet word with your grandmother, before 6 months ago how was your dad? Steady job steady personality?

[halismith2005]

Redhelen72 Six months ago he was drinking on the weekends. But he always blames others for his faults. Nothing his fault. He blames me and my stepmother for his drinking. 

[halismith2005]

naomi24, Thank you so much for removing the duplicate. 

[Redhelen72]

Alcoholics always blames someone else it's the nature of their addiction!

he will only seek help when he is ready too, best thing you and your Stepmum can do is change the locks withdraw any access to accounts that you need to live on and that he does not contribute to and get on with your life.