Would It Be A Good Thing If That Man Don't Come Back To Dogs Home?

[abbeylee90]

I thought I'd make a new thread so this man been on about in previous thread so I know from the dog's home had a strop other day as manager said he had to wear thier hi vi's vest with dogs home branded on when walking dogs. The manager didn't like my yellow jacket that he use to wear for work, and told him he had to wear one of theirs. So he told her that it was the lowest form of management "do as I say, not do as I do", as her and her staff never wear one, and that they should be setting an example to us walkers. She said I haven't got enough time to talk to you about this now, I said, "well you chose now to start it", and carried on, so it went from there. The staff wear thier uniform branded with dogs home. He hasn't been back since and not heard from him much either only when ge gave me a bag of treats to give to the dogs.

[abbeylee90]

What I mean nevra is I wouldn't have time anyway working around my friend, work boyfriend and he could come dogs home with me.

[scorpiojo]

You've hardly drifted a bit from this man if you've had lunch and dinner with him this week and he's also texted and phoned you within the last 4 days. 

Why have lunch/dinner with him and accept lifts from him if you said 4 months ago you felt uncomfortable? Tell him you're not interested.

[scorpiojo]

And give the watch back.

[abbeylee90]

No but use to message every day.

I will when I get my new one working 

[scorpiojo]

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[newmodarmy]

Give him the watch back now, abbey.  Don't put it off any longer

[abbeylee90]

I would have to meet up with him

[Redhelen72]

No it would be a bad thing.

we only have your word that he is doing these things you claim he is!

the dogs will miss out on their walks.

[wolf63]

Send the phone to him by post, write him a little note.  Then forget about him.

[abbeylee90]

Well they might do in the week but there's guys that come on weekend that been walking his dogs and thier the difficult ones 

[abbeylee90]

Don't know his address

[scorpiojo]

You used to message this man every day, as well as lunches, dinner(s), lifts, accepting the birthday gift, and considering going to a concert/zoo with him and going out for a drink with him and his friend/2 friends/6 friends, yet you say he makes you uncomfortable? 

[Redhelen72]

Stop just stop!!

your behaviour has been less than pleasant in this 'story'

[abbeylee90]

No I didn't go out with his mates or zoo.

It since my mum said be careful with him he may think I'm keen which I'm not so I haven't messaged him first and neither since he walked off in a strop

[scorpiojo]

You said your mum only knows about lunch. If you told her the whole truth, she may well form a different opinion of this man.

[Moorea7]

Abbey - you seem to make mountains out of molehills - why can't you just go to the kennels, walk the dog/s, be pleasant to the other volunteers and go home.  Somewhere along the way, I think, you have unknowingly encouraged the older chap - you should, as so many others have pointed out, not gone with him when he invited you to lunch, offered lifts, etc.  Are you ready to move forward with the important things in your life?

[abbeylee90]

Well I can turn that around now only helping out at fundraising events and of course walking dogs.

My mum asked if he had a wife

[elliemay1]

... and has he?

[scorpiojo]

Ellie

 

https://www.theanswerbank.co.uk/Family/Question1849447.html

[scorpiojo]

And on that thread (14 September) Abbey said 

 

//He has stopped offering me lifts pr asking me to go out for lunch or places with him.//

 

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