Would It Be A Good Thing If That Man Don't Come Back To Dogs Home?

[abbeylee90]

I thought I'd make a new thread so this man been on about in previous thread so I know from the dog's home had a strop other day as manager said he had to wear thier hi vi's vest with dogs home branded on when walking dogs. The manager didn't like my yellow jacket that he use to wear for work, and told him he had to wear one of theirs. So he told her that it was the lowest form of management "do as I say, not do as I do", as her and her staff never wear one, and that they should be setting an example to us walkers. She said I haven't got enough time to talk to you about this now, I said, "well you chose now to start it", and carried on, so it went from there. The staff wear thier uniform branded with dogs home. He hasn't been back since and not heard from him much either only when ge gave me a bag of treats to give to the dogs.

[abbeylee90]

Yep so hopefully that it he randomly messaged me asking if he seen me on a driving lesson I made a joke saying is he going down Xmas down he replied saying sorry 

[jackthehat]

That's not a joke, Abbey and now you have opened the door to speaking with him again.

If he texts you a question answer him using one word. He'll get the message soon enough.

 

[abbeylee90]

I haven't since 

[scorpiojo]

You could have said you're not interested (if indeed he is interested in more than a friendship with you) months ago, Abbey. I feel you've been very unfair to this man, and I hope he never comes across Answerbank and reads how he's been called "creepy" and a "stalker" among other names.

[abbeylee90]

He's 60s I'm 31 so what is he expecting 

[Moorea7]

If it matters to you, then you should have thought that out before accepting his offer of lifts, dining out, gifts, etc.
Sometimes, older men are more interesting than the younger breed.

[jourdain2]

I'm afraid that I really give up on all these posts now.  

abbey - your last post was, I'm afraid, callous and selfish.  Yes, he wasn't a suitable person to go around with, but as I (and others) have pointed out you did lead him on so it ill becomes you to be so dismissive.  Sorry.

[jackthehat]

You know what he is expecting and you've sort of shown him that you are happy to go along with it by accepting his gifts and letting him take you for meals......without telling him, firmly, that you are not interested in him 'romantically', shall we say?

The capacity for the older man to convince/delude himself that women half his age are irresistibly drawn to him is endless.

[Neveracrossword]

Abbey, I'm afraid your idea of a 'joke' is just ... daft and ill-mannered. Is your life so awful that you want to spend all this time debating about old men, random friends with stuff on FB and so on?  It's sad, really - I hope you manage to turn things around at some point. 

[abbeylee90]

Well if he don't come back then there's no need to speak to him so he can't offer lifts or anything and tell him I'm speaking to someone.

[Canary42]

So are you happy that you've driven him away ?

[abbeylee90]

I haven't the dogs home did by saying he needs to wear thier hi vi's 

[Canary42]

My bad, apologies (but I have a hard job deciphering some of your posts).

[newmodarmy]

//Yep so hopefully that it he randomly messaged me asking if he seen me on a driving lesson I made a joke saying is he going down Xmas down he replied saying sorry //

Some posters found this joke in bad taste, but I can't see why - but that's because I haven't got a clue what it means.

[abbeylee90]

No because he don't to thier hi vi's vests

[newmodarmy]

^ Maybe try that one again abbey. Who are you responding to and is that what you meant to type?

[abbeylee90]

To canary when he said what  drove him away 

[Floko]

These daily threads asking what? why?when? how? should I? is it? ...will he? does it? .....are completely daft now and end up with Abbey rambling on about "the man" .    she is revelling in it... . repeating herself over and over like a broken record...... so no more from me.     Amen

[scorpiojo]

//Well if he don't come back then there's no need to speak to him so he can't offer lifts or anything and tell him I'm speaking to someone//

 

Well, if you'd made it clear it was only a friendship (if..IF..he did think it was more than that) months ago....

[abbeylee90]

He messaged me and asked if I wanted to do lunch this afternoon and I said I got an appointment.