Is It Normal To Feel Like This?

[abbeylee90]

I feel like I got nothing going for me I'm 31 got think I'm looking my job, no money I just want to be happy feel like s***

[barry1010]

At this time of the morning things can seem much worse than they really are, especially at Christmas when we are supposed to be happy.

We all feel down and at a loss as to what to do at times. 

Your job and money situation may be rubbish at the moment but you are safe, with a comfortable home and good friends and family. 

Slap a smile on your face, join in and help those around you to have a nice Christmas.  

Make your mind up to knuckle down and find a full time job in January that you will stick at.  Then get on with Christmas and helping your mother while she's recuperating.

[Neveracrossword]

Abbeylee, this is the third or fourth time you've said this and I know you received lots of helpful ideas and suggestions before. Did you follow any of the advice?

[scorpiojo]

Again, have you seen your GP yet?

[newmodarmy]

What does 'got think I'm looking my job mean?

 

[Neveracrossword]

The last few times Abbey posted this question, it was the possibility of losing her job - different job/s over the past year.

[Hazlinny]

C'mon Abbey, buck up - there are a lot of people much worse of than you at this special time of the year.  Do what Barry suggests and have yourself a jolly little Christmas.  You said you are going out tonight so enjoy. x

[abbeylee90]

Loosing my job I mean 

[anneasquith]

You appear to have AB at all times. 🤔

[Neveracrossword]

Abbey, you've had worries about losing your job, various jobs, for months and months now. You really did get lots and lots of advice, about feeling low, about anti-depressants and so on. months back. If you get another shedload of replies, will you take any notice this time? Some ABers were very kind and helpful.

[abbeylee90]

Yes thanks Barry's is very positive 

[Neveracrossword]

Thanks, Abbey, it'd be really good if you followed some of the advice given. If you'd done that last time, you might have been in a better position now!

[Khandro]

Religion.

[newmodarmy]

I have a suggestion too abbey. Judging by your Answerbank posts you spend large amounts of time rasing your issues, whether it be about problems at work, what to wear, your nails, how to get a boyfriend, what to say to your driving instructor, how to deal with an older man paying you too much attention, etc etc. You only ever post about yourself.

There are people on here seeking help themselves. People losing loved ones, people with serious health issues. People wanting advice about work problems, financial problems , tech problems, and so on. Maybe you could try joining in and offering help on those threads. 

Also there must be people around you with issues. You could think more about what help your Mum needs, for example, following her operation. Could you help more around the house, perhaps, or do some shopping for her,

It might help you take your mind of your own issues for a bit, and help you see that in some ways you are fortunate to have a stable home life where you don't have to worry about paying food or energy bills.

 

[Khandro]

That's a long post from newmodarmy and I agree and I believe my one word post above covers it.

Stick your hands together, close your eyes, and pray for someone who is in need and worse off than you. You don't have to accept all the trimmings.

See how you feel.

 

[abbeylee90]

Newmorby thank you I do shopping for my mum and offer to help. I go dog walking that clears my head regarding than man one of the ladies down says he would be horrible to go out with probably why he never got wife but he ok. Just when I sleep all I think about is my life right now.

[newmodarmy]

Thanks. I meant to type 'raising'  nor 'rasing' in the first sentence. I should have followed my own previous advice to abbey about checking posts make sense before submitting,

[abbeylee90]

I really feel for people who loose thier loved ones

[rowanwitch]

One of the most freeing things is realising life isn't like it's shown  in the media and you don't have to have that life to be happy.

I do feel that learning some new skills would help you both with  finding work you enjoy and can commit to and in finding friends your own age in a similar position.  Go chat to the advisors at your local colleges are what's available.

[elliemay1]

abbey, you have something that a lot of us on here don't have and that is your youth. Try not to waste it worrying about everything, relax a little and decide to enjoy the positives in your life

[anneasquith]

I have to wonder how anyone has time to post so much on AB and lead a normal life? But I'll leave you to your (what appears to be your support group ), .