wedding gifts

[Dolly]

marriage lasted less than a week ,should the wedding gifts be returned?

[woofgang]

How sad. My feeling is that the offer should be made, although I expect that most people would say to keep them

[Doolallygirl]

No! Something good has to come from your "marriage"! Seriously though, I wouldn't even bother making the offer. These relatives and friends bought the presents for you and I'm sure to offer them back could offend. Up to you at the end of the day, but you could always sell whatever you don't want to keep!

[rja211077]

that's a lot of hassle for a free toaster.

[woofgang]

http://www.theknot.com/ch_qaarticle.html?Object=AI9809142015 40&subchannel=GIFTS+&+REGISTERING&channel=planning&keyword=G IFTS+&+REGISTERING says that the offer should be made

[Doolallygirl]

How do you remember who got you what though?!

[cheyenne]

this is truly sad,i think whoever has been through such a sad ordeal should try to pick up the pieces of there live.the last thing you need is to start phoning people about returning presents.try to look forward to the future,goodluck whoever it is.

[kags]

I agree that the offer should be made. Thank you notes would have to be sent anyway, so maybe a note saying that regrettably things haven't worked out and offering to return the gifts should be sent. I agree with woofgang that most people won't want them back, but they can't say they weren't given the opportunity.

[woofgang]

also do you want to be surrounded by reminders of a sad time?

[Postie]

Yes, with interest. You cannot expect me to believe that there were no warning signs even as late as the day before the wedding. What this couple have done is conned a lot of good folk into spending money they may not have been able to properly afford, to make plans and disrupt their lives to attend or celebrate a wedding in good faith, all the time knowing that the whole exercise was a sham. Never mind feeling sorry for the "unhappy" couple, they should be thoroughly ashamed of themselves and do all within their powers to make it up to the suckers they conned.

[ludwig]

yes, return the gifts.

[woofgang]

Postie, that's a bit harsh...

[Dolly]

so glad you agree with me...as it was a sham!! in her own words the bride said she "had my dream, to have my father walk me down the aisle" and that was the whole reason for her having this elaborate "sham",she has also told us(her father and me) not to say anything about her marriage lasting only 5 days, she wanted to wait at least 6 months before she said anything to anyone, and has sice moved into her own apt and is "decorating" with all the wedding gifts and monies she received at the reception. I am totally appaled at her behavior!!being the so call "evil stepmother"; my feelings and attitude count for nothing. All I know is what is right and the honorable thing to do. Thank you for you comment.. Dolly

[Cheesefreek]

Yes yes yes. If I'd given a gift to such a pathetic marriage, I would be very annoyed and suspicious. Most people overspend on wedding gifts and I would resent my gift being used in these circumstances. I bet she's lost a lot of friends.