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I posted a question last week about how insecure my wife was becoming over my secretary. Anyway, I took all of your comments on board and I took my wife out for a romantic meal over the weekend, it was an n expensive restaurant and I gave her (a lot) of money as a present to go and buy something nice to wear. So, we are sitting in the restaurant talking in general about things, our child, home, planned holidays etc when she asks me outright if I am having an affair with my secretary, I told her that No, I wasn't. She didn't like this answer and said that she thought I was lying and if I told the truth now we could work things through, but I told her the truth again and said No, I also told her that here wasn't the place to have a heated discussion about this, to which she replied I must have something to hide, not to want to talk about it. The whole evening was ruined and all I had done was try my best to make her feel special as you all told me to do. I have been given the cold shoulder since then and I do not know what else I can do. When we are in a quiet romantic place together and she still goes on like this, I can't see that there is any more I can do. Surely it is down to her to sort this out in her own mind now?
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hi there,
why does she think you are having an affair? has she seen or hear anything or just has a 'gut' feeling?
women do believe we have a strong sense of truth and follow our gut instincts which are not always right. It seems your wife is very insecure....do you know why this could be? Has anything changed recently to make her question you and your relationship? Sorry too many questions!
If ou want to make this work somehow you need to PROVE to her nothing is going on.
However there is one option to be considered and its not a nice thought...sometimes when people are cheating themselves they accuse their partner of the same to try and make themselves feel less guilty. I am not saying she is doing anything but it may be worth thinking about. I really hope this works out for you - life is too short and too hard anyway to have this additional stress xx
why does she think you are having an affair? has she seen or hear anything or just has a 'gut' feeling?
women do believe we have a strong sense of truth and follow our gut instincts which are not always right. It seems your wife is very insecure....do you know why this could be? Has anything changed recently to make her question you and your relationship? Sorry too many questions!
If ou want to make this work somehow you need to PROVE to her nothing is going on.
However there is one option to be considered and its not a nice thought...sometimes when people are cheating themselves they accuse their partner of the same to try and make themselves feel less guilty. I am not saying she is doing anything but it may be worth thinking about. I really hope this works out for you - life is too short and too hard anyway to have this additional stress xx
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Hi lifeandsold, I think now is the time for "shock tactics," she obviously is insecure although she should trust you as this is the main basis of all relationships. I would suggest giving her an ultimatum and tell her that if she doesn't trust you that you will leave and if need be go and stay with a friend or family for a few days and see if she realises the error of her ways!
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I'd say that if you've really tried showing her that you love her (one night spending a lot of money doesn't count) and want to be with her then there isn't really much you can do. There seems to be a breakdown of communications, do you spend time together everyday? Do you talk or sit in silence? It sounds to me like you want people to tell you there's nothing you can do. Do you want to leave her but need justification from strangers or do you still want to be with her? I'm sorry if you;ve explained all this before, I don't think I've read your other posts.
