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Given the high failure rate of first marriages, are vows taken too lightly?
What would you like to see done differently either in the Marriage service to strengthen what the union means or perhaps you would like to see change in the way people are brought together to prevent relationships from being irretrievably broken down?
What would you like to see done differently either in the Marriage service to strengthen what the union means or perhaps you would like to see change in the way people are brought together to prevent relationships from being irretrievably broken down?
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For more on marking an answer as the "Best Answer", please visit our FAQ.The ceremony makes no difference. If pairings break up it's either because they were blind to the fact it was a bad match, or they are too young to realise no one is perfect and you have to accept the other ones 'faults'.
It's possible counselling could help, but I think any increase number of breakdowns is more to a) not learning to put the effort in to keep the relationship strong and b) being less tolerant of putting up with an unhappy life as folk used to in the past.
It's possible counselling could help, but I think any increase number of breakdowns is more to a) not learning to put the effort in to keep the relationship strong and b) being less tolerant of putting up with an unhappy life as folk used to in the past.
When people are in love it's easy to agree to "til death do us part" and I think most people mean it at the time. However, I don't believe people should be obliged to remain tied to someone they no longer love.
Pixie, I don't think the two year separation applies any more. As far as I know, the only requirement before issuing a divorce petition is that the couple have been married for over a year.
Pixie, I don't think the two year separation applies any more. As far as I know, the only requirement before issuing a divorce petition is that the couple have been married for over a year.
My marriage is still going 54 years later. I don't think a change in the marriage service will make commitment any stronger. When we went to see the vicar about the banns he spoke to us about sharing our lives together - for the rest of our lives through the good and bad times. But that was 54 and a bit years ago, and I have to admit it hasnt been plain sailing at times. Now people's perception of marriage has changed. It seems very easy to move on to someone else, to divorce, or just live with someone else these days. The lack of a belief that binds both partners in marriage seems to have gone. It is complex there are no definite rules about this, times have changed so much, I can't say that our vicar's words rang in my ears all those years but that talk resolved our togetherness then.
I'm unsure it needs much elaboration. One should take umbrage at any suggestion that a couple who have not gone through a ritual is somehow a lesser couple than a couple who have conformed. Or has less feeling or dedication to the relationship (which the number of break-ups you refer to in your OP proves not to be the case). It would seem very strange if someone suggested they personally would be less committed to their partner without the piece of paper; quite a confession. It has only whatever value the couple creates for it.