fair divorce???

[cowboy6]

my wife and i have agreed to seperate and divorce after 19 years, we have an 11 year old son. we wish things to be as amicable as possible. does that entitle me to half share of our house? from what i hear i may not be entitled to it? why do i feel im being ripped off????

[dot.hawkes]

If your wife will have custody of your son, then she will be able to stay in the house with your son until he leaves full time education. In the meantime you will nead to make sure you help keep the roof over his head as best you can so find somewhere very cheap to live yourself, his welfare is the priority. make sujre you don't mess up on the mortgage payments and put them under threat of eviction.

[cowboy6]

so in the meantime my wife gets to stay in a 170k house and i end up in a bedsit?? how is that amicable or fair??

[juddlinski]

You're absolutely right. Throw your wife and son in the bedsit instead. Moron.

[claireyfairy]

obviously I don't know hte details of your divorce and I'm not asking but why are you under the belief that your son and wife shoudl move out of their home just because you say so?! If i was your wife I would give you half of everything and by that I mean I would take a chainsaw to everything and give you exactly half!!!!!!!!

[Sammy Snake]

I don't think cowboy6 is saying that his wife and child should move out of the house.

I am a female but can totally see where you are coming from. Whilst everyone needs to keep a roof over their heads, it does seems rather harsh that one person should end up in a tiny bedsit or flat whilst the other remains in a nice big comfy house.

[dancecaller]

Yes, don't pick on the poor bloke.
If you both want things amicable you need to get together and decide if there is a fair settlement, maybe a smaller house in the same area so that he is not uprooted from friends at a time when there is already an upheaval.
Obviously neither of you will be financially as well off apart as together, you have to accept that.

[tigerthecat]

In law as your child is so young they would certainly be entitled to stay with a proportion of the equity (about a 1/3) being yours which you realise if she sells up. If your wife is finacially able she may be able to give you that 1/3 now/before. Think of your son and whats best for him not whats best for either you or your wife.