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What is a friend?
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For more on marking an answer as the "Best Answer", please visit our FAQ.firstly my condolances im very sorry to hear of your lose.secondly i feel that your friend has probably treated you rather badly at your time of need but perhaps she is just unsure of how to talk to you for fear of saying the wrong thing and causing you more upset.although as a true friend i feel that she should be there to support you. please take care.
At this time, when you need to grieve, be aware that your emotional state is not a good basis for sound decisions. Put things off until later, and certainly do not close doors just now. See your friend's actions as bewildering rather than an insult.
A close male friend was with me when my mother died and after concluding the "business" at the hospital we walked out of the main doors. As I emerged into the daylight I suddenly realised that I was "on my own" and felt really abandoned. What did my friend suggest we do? To go some place for anonymous sex with strangers! I just couldn't believe how unhelpful and weird his suggestion was. Needless to say that is not what I did, and I later explored this with him. It seemed that he was at a total loss as to know what to do or suggest but was compelled to suggest something, anything, other than the nothing that he thought I would see as unfeeling and hurtful.
We are strange, somtimes in how we react to each other. Make allowanaces.
A true friend is there for you in all sorts of weather, but I'm afraid not everybody can be everything towards others. Even if she didn't know what to say she could have been with you to hold your hand.
Having said that I feel that you could regret cutting her off while you are in an upset state. Why not wait a while and see what happens. You may find that the friendship will die a natural death as time goes by, or maybe there IS something major going on in her life that you will find out later. You would feel really bad if that is the case and you would be adding to your grief.
I can't really add much more than the other posts, but wanted to offer you my condolences, sympathy & love.
I lost my Mum & Dad within 20 months of each other & although I had family & friends around me, I'd never felt so empy & alone.
I do hope you will be able to rekindle the friendship, but if not, then it isn't meant to be. I'm sure in time you'll strike up another friendship with someone you'll feel comfortable & more at ease with. Chin up & hugs to you! -x-
Hi there,
Firstly, I am sorry to hear of your loss.
Secondly, completely agree with what everyone has said here - I think its probably not the best time to make decisions about washing your hands of your friend. I do agree that she should be a bit more supportive of you at a time like this, but sometimes people don't know what to say to each other, and i think this could be the case with your friend. Give it a few weeks and see how she acts with you. To be honest, I think you have enough on your plate at the moment to be dealing with her if she's going to be acting like that, but keep it at the back of your mind for now. Do you have any other friends you could rely on more?
Take care.
Hi Eastender
Hope you're OK
My best friend and I were in the same situation a couple of years ago. Her Dad died at 59. We were very close friends and confided in each other about everything, but I could never really appreciate how she felt when he died. It's such a personal experience. When I tried to phone her she would sometimes be too upset to speak so I told her to phone me whenever she felt like talking. So, perhaps your friend doesn't know how to react in this situation. you could phone her and give her another chance.