i think that is part of the problem, no men around, so they don't pay towards their children, so the women have to cope on their own, as to the proud man, why didn't he save some of the good wages he had earned, there was a lot of info missing on all of the cases. Theo Paphitis, who came from a poor family, gave some very sound advice to the Ethiopian woman, who seemed to believe that all the problems will magically disappear by ignoring it, which of course it doesn't, it compounds them.