First Dates

[gollob]

When a couple have a meal and the cost is £150 to £200 and the man says I will pay for that. Next the lady says he was nice but I don't want to see him any more. I would be quite annoyed when I opened the taxi door for her and she said goodbye and to think I perhaps had just wasted £200 or do people thinks that is OK.

[ummmm]

I'm surprised the meals are not paid for by the programme.

[woofgang]

So what do you expect for your money?

[pastafreak]

I frankly doubt the meals cost that much...and I am sure all parties know exactly what the risks are, as for any blind date. Some split the cost...many don't.She
I do hope you don't think the woman *owes* anything.

[pastafreak]

I font know where that random "she" came from. I swear I didn't type it....

[mazie]

How was it wasted if the both had a nice evening (didn't see it, but assuming they had a nice evening)

[Old_Geezer]

I think someone should neither expect nor allow someone to spend £200 on a meal for them when they are not already in a committed relationship. Taking and then effectively saying, "Thanks sucker", is not right. Morally they owe half the bill. That said, offering to pay that on the first date is pretty daft too.

[Cloverjo]

I don't watch the TV programme, but if I were to go out with a new man now I'd pay half the bill. It seems ludicrous to expect the man to pay, especially for 200 quid.
I'd hope that it wouldn't cost that much anyway. I'd want to know him a bit more before spending that amount.

[jennyjoan]

how much food do ya git for £200 - it beats me

[mazie]

I get a 2 week shop Conne for that (without the wine of course)

[anneasquith]

I don't think for a second the men/women actually pay for anything ,

[mazie]

I've only seen it once Anne, but I don't think they do either. Why would they

[Mamyalynne]

//Do they really have to pay for their meal, though?

Well, kind of. We’re told each dater is given £25 before arriving for their dinner – so that’s £50 per couple. ‘When you see the blokes offering to foot the bill at the end, bear in mind most of it’s already been paid for, as the set menu at the Chop House is £25 for three courses,’ says our insider. ‘Obviously, that doesn’t include cocktails at £8 a pop.//

http://www.celebsnow.co.uk/celebrity-news/the-secrets-behind-first-dates-321198

[jennyjoan]

Aren't the daters providing the "Amusamant" for TV - of course it is paid for .

[Mamyalynne]

I think this thread hinges on whether gollob is simply discussing the TV Show or using it as a template for everyday dating.

[trt]

There was a woman on there a while ago.

When the bill came, she offered to pay half, and the bloke agreed.

In the room, where they are asked if they want to see each other again, she said no, because she had never had to pay half before, and it was ungentlemanly!

[ummmm]

Weren't they a little bit older though, trt?

[anneasquith]

What's age got to do with it ummmm ?

[ummmm]

Because within a certain generation it was expected that the man would pay.

Not so much nowadays.

[Mamyalynne]

I think it depends very much on the situation , a blind date albeit arranged as the show - then halves.

However if a man invites me out to dinner then I assume he's paying unless we decide differently first.

[andy-hughes]

I'm old-fashioned, so I would certainly offer to pay for the meal, but would accept graciously if the lady offered to pay half.

As for thinking i had 'wasted' the money, that rather implies that the fee for the meal was some sort of 'investment' - and as far as I am concerned, I have paid for an .out, and therefore I have paid for what I got.

If my date prefers not to see me again, that is her perogative.