Having Strangers In Your Home Ettiquette

[MDWCT2018]

I have issues with assertiveness. I find because I dont have strong boundaries people see me as a soft touch and take advantage of me .... well, they did and now I am changing!

I have started using a mobile hairdresser for convenience.I can save travel time and have all my packages delivered that morning as I know I am going to be in to sign for it. But it is always uncomfortable to have strangers in my home, and I am sure many feel like this.

This hairdresser was here for 4 hours (he was doing a colour job). Overall polite but kept telling me about his investments and how he was buying all these properties and how 'rich' he was etc.

I never talk about money or wealth because I think it is private and no ones business.

The issue I have might seem petty to you..... about half way in the work I asked him if he wanted water because I was having a bottle. He said he wanted tea. I said I didn't have it. He then aggressively said 'I WANT tea'. In the end I opened my cupboards and showed him I did not have it!

I thought that would be the end of it, but when he was leaving he said 'next time I want tea' ......!

I am in 2 minds about re-booking him. He did a good job work-wise on my hair colour but
1. he kept going on about how rich he was which made me uncomfortable because why should I care?!
2. he was aggressive about the whole tea thing. I know it sounds petty but he is not a guest in my house and I feel uncomfortable that he should be able to command what he wants to drink
3.when he left he hugged me and smelt my perfume and rubbed his hands up and down my waist ....eewww!

If I have workmen for eg in the house I will offer tea and biscuits. I have spoken to some friends and they say they dont because they want them in and out, not slurping teas taking their time! I think I have an issue with the fact that this hairdresser felt he was entitled to whatever he wanted like my flat is a coffee shop!

Has anyone ever used mobile hairdressers and if so, what is your way of dealing with them?

Any tips appreciated.

I want to be polite and friendly but not the extent that they think they are my guests and start taking liberties =)

[AuntPollyGrey]

Tips? Don't get that hairdresser again he sounds horrendous! He was aggressive towards you, bored you senseless with his showing off and basically touched you up on leaving. Oh and 4 hours for a colour is a bit long isn't it?

[Old_Geezer]

Now't wrong with offering refreshment. Especially on a long job. But I'm not understanding this reference to "next time" given the attitude.

[rockyracoon]

It’s nothing to do with him being a mobile hairdresser, it’s to do with him being an a-hole. Don’t have him in your house again.

My mobile hairdresser is lovely.

[Cloverjo]

I can’t believe this. Seriously.
I know workmen have ways of making you offer them regular cups of tea, but no hairdresser or workman would demand it.

[AuntPollyGrey]

She offered him water and he 'demanded' tea. He may just have a bit of a how can I put it...'flamboyant' personality that the OP misinterpreted but when all said and done he made her feel uncomfortable and therefore should be avoided.

[TonyV]

Just don't use him again, plenty of nicer people will be more than ready to take your money.

[anneasquith]

If he was very rich, why is he doing mobile hairdressing? Dump him. Buy some tea bags .

[Theland]

When he touched you, you should have touched him, with your knee in the balls.

[woofgang]

That person is the problem, not your attitude. Their behaviour verges on abuse and should not be tolerated and I don't think he sounds at all polite! Maybe I have been lucky but I have never had a workman or woman in my house who spent their time slurping coffee. I always know what the job will cost before I agree to have them do the work and they know that the faster they can finish the work, the more they can earn that day. I will always offer a drink and a drink and biscuits of the job is a longer one.

[Peter Pedant]

I want tea
is a no no
book someone else

[TonyV]

Other side of coin, when I've been working in ladies houses, been asked to zip them up, duly obliged and quickly left.

[MDWCT2018]

Thanks Guys and Gals. Looks like its a unanimous No!

[woofgang]

I am a bit surprised you even had to ask!

[TheDevil]

Most people who have to go on about their hourly pay or their portfolio / assets usually are lacking in emotional comfort.

[MDWCT2018]

IKR woofgang ... especially when I see how instantly everyone else said ' No. Next' =)

Something I am going to definitely work on this year

[woofgang]

may this year be your year!

[tamborine]

4hrs to tint & style ur hair that in a salon with Climazone, would take 1hr at most + refreshments. Your fault for avoiding professional businesses. A rich mobile stylist is unlikely to be paying tax.

[ToraToraTora]

nowt to do with his function the guy's a creepy rissole. Don't have him round again.

[david small]

This is a nut job. Your safety is at stake. Avoid like the plague.

[jourdain2]

Definitely don't employ him again. He's a controller and dangerous.
I've used travelling hairdressers (not often) but always female - like me.