Cheating hearts

[ab_user]

I have been 'helping' a few friends out recently, by seeing whether their husbands are being faithful or not. All this involves is arranging to be at the same bar as these men, catching their attention, flirting with them and seeing how far they will take things. It is similar to a honey trap except I do not get paid to do this, I have done this as a favour for some insecure friends. Apart from some harmless flirting, the men have mostly appeared to be faithful. One of my friends from uni has been having some problems with her boyfriend, she asked if I would 'do my thing' and see if she was playing around. Everything was set up, I was in the bar when her boyfriend arrived and HE WAS GORGEOUS. We spent the night catching glances at each other, until her finally approached me and offered to buy me a drink, I accepted and we spent the rest of the evening drinking together, I was feeling pretty hot by the end of the evening and decided to take him up on his offer of sex. It was amazing. The following day I had to report back to my friend and I told her that he was 'faithful' and that she had nothing to worry about, the problem now though is that we have continued to see each other and meet up weekly. I feel bad as my friend now thinks things are great between her and her boyfriend now she thinks he is faithful? Should I tell her that I have caught him cheating so that she will finish with him? Or shall I just carry on with this?

[sleepy1]

is this a wind up ??

[4gottenabout]

None of you deserve to be with anyone. The girl thats put you up to it for not trusting her own bloke in first place, him for falling into the trap and feinately you for going behind a mates back. No-one likes game playing. You all need to grow up if you want any 'adult' relationship

[4gottenabout]

sorry that was meant to be definately. Wardens just come in dungeon and scared me :-)

[Katie~77]

lol If this isn't a wind up, it serves you all right!x

[4gottenabout]

but taken as serious its a very good question. You should tell her after all she's the one that made you flirt with him

[ab_user]

This is not a wind up, I really do want some serious advice. I know that I have abused her trust but it was so hard to resist and they way I am looking at this, she basically pushed us together by setting him up.

[4gottenabout]

yep I agree she asked you to so her fault, although if you were a friend you should have said no.

[ab_user]

I never for one moment expected to fall into bed with this guy, or any of the guys for that matter.

[ab_user]

Sorry, that wasn't worded right, he is the only one I have slept with.

[4gottenabout]

well if you didnt the right words to say to the girls would have been 'he wouldnt cheat on you'

[4gottenabout]

its weird though how these are all your mates yet you've never met there boyfriends nor have they met you. And why the new name?

[ab_user]

They are the words I have used countless time and they have been true. The thing is now though, because she feels more secure in herself, she is much happier and generally a happier person and I fell kind of responsible for her being like that as it was me that gave her the �good� news about her boyfriend.

[4gottenabout]

well I hope you feel bad when you split them up and lose your mates when she tells them what you've been up to. What exactly did you get out of this, most honeytraps will do it for money and for people they dont know.

[ab_user]

Why weird, I have plenty of old friends from uni that I regularly keep in contact with but have never met their partners. There are people I now work with that I know on a social level but would not know their partners if they walked past me in the street. I registered this morning as I wanted a neutral opinion on this situation. I am not really into posting on message boards or Q and A as a rule.

[johnlambert]

If this isn't a wind up and you want some advice then the pearls of wisdom I cant before you are
1) Find your own man
2) Tell your friend what happened
3) Leave town

[4gottenabout]

right good name for a first timer

[4gottenabout]

as I said my answer still stands that you ALL need to grow up

[ab_user]

Johnlambert � I was thinking about this, if I tell my friend what has really happened it will drop her confidence way back down again, and right now she is the happiest I have ever seen her. I could tell her that I have seen him cheating (not with me) and see how that goes, but I can�t really see what that will achieve as I will still be friends with her and seeing him so the situation would be no better. Or I can carry on as I am and hope that things just fizzle out for her or that she meets someone else.