And So It Begins....

[ferlew]

Life on my own.
All family and friends have now gone home, and I am left to my own devices.
Little update for you all.
The funeral was small, and very simple. No religion involved, but lots of love and everyone who mattered to Mr F was there. No "wake" at the pub, just a meal afterwards for family and close friends.
I am very fortunate both in real life, and in my online life. So very much support.
Now it's time to make my own way, do my own thing and and make my family proud of me.
My sons have both expressed their pride in how Mr F's wishes were met. What more can a lady ask.
I'll no doubt be back with a few daft questions for you all. Thanks :)

[mallyh]

sending you a great big hug xx

[murraymints]

aww Ferlew..so sad for you..words are not enough..you will feel lost for a while...one day you are completely absorbed in caring for someone , it becomes your everything..then... all that time with no focus..... I am still feeling that 2 years on since I lost dad.... we are here for you Ferlew..always /// big hugs xxx..

[Tilly2]

I am so pleased that it all went 'well', Ferlew. Time to think about yourself now. Best wishes. x

[albaqwerty]

Your family are already proud of you.

I don't know you in real life, but from what you have posted on here, you are a strong, compassionate woman.
The sad part is now adapting to a new normal.

If you have a blip, you can come to your on-line chums.
Please do take care of yourself, remember to eat.

If, and when needed, have a sob, no-one would deny you that.

xxxx

[naomi24]

x

[ummmm]

So sorry. You sound like a strong woman xx

[1ozzy]

Just remember Ferlew life for you goes on.

Dad passed away a few months ago, Mum is struggling after 67 years together.

My thoughts are with you, tough times indeed.

[Togo]

You must now channel the care you were providing, into care for yourself Ferlew. Take your time and pack away the memories, making sure to put the happy ones on top. Do, when you have had time to adjust, promise yourself to get out and about as much as possible. Well done.

[woofgang]

All I will say is be kind to yourself and let yourself deal with the next weeks months and years in the way which is easiest for you x

[jakep]

.....a daunting prospect for you. You will never stop loving Mr F but there is a way to build a different life with all the support you have.
A friend nursed her husband for four years until his passing five years ago. With the help of U3A and bowling and walking clubs she has a very full life now. I know she would give it up in a heartbeat to have him with her but she has made the best of the life she has now.
I wish you well.
There are no daft questions, just things you don't know until you ask x

[tamborine]

Sadness & loss will be with you but your happy memories will fill that space. Remember your family grieve with you & will want to talk of Mr F. to relive happy times. All good wishes from your cyber friend x

[anneasquith]

Be good to yourself, put no pressure on yourself to " must do" .eat well and sleep well , and talk about hubby whenever you wish , take care .

[Old_Geezer]

Hang in there. I'm sure it'll become more bearable as time goes by and it becomes the norm. Make sure you still interact with friends, family, neighbours, etc..

[Patsy33]

I wish you all the strength you need ferlew. You'll have your good days and bad days In sure but Mr ferlew will be encouraging you on in spirit. Make him and family proud! X

[maggiebee]

((((hug))))

[Mamyalynne]

What a positive approach to the next chapter - it isn't easy but you'll get through.

M x

[-SharonA-]

Hi Ferlew, it is sad but I am sure you will prevail. Stay strong.

[Lie-in King]

((Ferlew)) - I wish you all the best x

[marval]

I am glad the day went well Ferlew. Allow yourself some time for you, and then decide what you want to do. We are always here for you. xx

[Baldric]

Be good to yourself Ferlew.