I fully understand the notion of sections of society taking an epiteht and 're-owning' it because of a perceived sense of empowerment achieved by doing so.
What I don't understamd is why anyone would want to own such ugly and unpleasant words.
By definition, any insult is going to sound ugly, not matter who'se mouth it is in, or what the reason is for spitting it out.
I would prefer that we move away from use of such words altogether, because they are ugley, nasty, belitting degrading adjectives, and as such, they should have no place in modern language.
We should be encouraging our growing generations to repsect themselves, and each other, and not tobe perpetuating nastiness from previous generations in some sort of misguided notion of 'respect'.
Nasty langauge is just, and only that - nasty.
We should all be working towards the obliteration of such terms, for the good of everyone, not just minority groups with an overdeveloped sense of self-rightiousness.