AOG - //andy-hughes
/// I like to think that if a mixed race couple have got to a second date, they have managed to reach a conclusion vis-à-vis each other's skin colour, and decided that they like each other anyway, so colour is not an issue. ///
I think that it would take more than two dates to attend to the issues that can come between the couple, which they might not realise at such a young age. //
Of course it will - but that point applies whatever colour either of the couple is!
My point is, in the early part of the relationship, the couple will have decided that skin colour difference is not an issue - that is something they can see right in front of them. In terms of 'cultural' difficulties' that may lie ahead - that applies to any couple anywhere of any colour. I don't think anyone embarks on a relationship thinking 'Hmm, there may be 'cultural difference ahead here ...' - if they did, the relationship is unlikely to get to the point where 'cultural differences' matter anyway.
// But it is not just about skin colour or race, but the main problem is the clash of cultures, and although at such a young age and being in love, this might not surface in the early stages of their relationship. //
You talk about 'clash of cultures' as though an American woman has taken up with a Amazon tribesman who thinks an eclipse is the end of the world!
This couple are from the same country for heaven's sake! Your notion of 'cultural differences' is seriously out of touch with reality. Black and white Americans are not so different that they are likely to experience 'cultural differences' based on the colours of their skins.
Whether we like to brush over the fact and to be seemed up to date, cultural difference problems can surface at any given time, as in this case her parents attitude, maybe her neighbours and other acquaintances. //
It is not about being seen to be up to date, it is about being up to date. The days when black people drank from different water fountains and used different toilets are actually gone now - so there is no point in perpetuating the racist notion that 'black people are not like us' - because they are like us!
// No not everyone supports the PC attitude, that is life, and there can be problems much later in life when they decide to start a family, then there becomes the problem of what some mixed race children are sometime forced to endure. //
Personally, if society still has issues with mixed-race children in 2017, then it is seriously limited backwaters where bigoted ignorant racism still flourishes, and the way to clean up that cancer is not to pander to it by encouraging people to date and marry within their own colour group.
// But this is not only a White Bigoted Racist attitude, it works both ways we do not know of the black boy's parents attitude is, for their son to go out with a white girl. //
Does that make it OK then - if they are racist as well? Bigotry knows no colour, one of its biggest ironies.
// Yes this is about colour, but as already been pointed out, there can be problems over religion, and also some Asian's attitude towards caste, and of course our own attitude towards class. //
Yes there can - and we on here are always delighted to debate them, but they are not relevant here. This is about racist bigotry, not religious or class bigotries, they are for another day.
Oh - and any thoughts about those many and varied 'cultural differences' to which you persist in referring? Just a couple will do.
Thanks.