Too Posh To Wash?

[ferlew]

If mum's are worried about having to choose between heating and nappies...why on earth do they think they MUST buy disposable nappies? Not only problematic to dispose of - but so expensive too. Isn;t it time terry nappies were in regular use again?

[jno]

granddaughter goes to nursery in nappies (she's only a year old), which the staff change and report back to parents, along with meals eaten, duration of naps etc. Costs more than it did to send her father to secondary school but she seems to love it. Considering I didn't get to socialise till I went to school aged five, she's probably going to grow up a better adjusted child.

[pimplyteen]

Now there's a thought hopkirk @ 14.42 nappies for dogs on walkies.

[pastafreak]

We lived in a flat. No washing machine. But there were machines in the basement. Taking a load of soaked/wet diapers down there only to find all machines in use meant trying to get them done was a royal pitb. She was potty trained ...and at what was considered a reasonable age she was diaper free.

[MissTerious]

I know our son was out of nappies at around 2. One small accident in the tent that didn't involve poo. We took him away on holiday camping in South of France for three weeks with no nappies just a couple of months after his 2nd birthday. We stayed in a couple of hotels on the way down. We took a pottie in the car.

[Bobbisox1]

Terrys every time

[jourdain2]

Terry nappies have to be best. All those disposables going to landfill!
They are a pain if you have to hand-wash - although you used to use thin cotton washable liners so the terry's didn't collect solids. A nappy-bucket for soaking and a washing-load c. 3 times a week did it.

The other point about encouraging toilet training is quite right. Toddlers very soon realised the drawbacks of not using the potty. Mine were daytime toilet-trained by 18 months and 2 years respectively.

[MissTerious]

Our son was socialised by playgroups and outings with friends and their kids. Went off to school happily and confidentially at 4. Good parents make sure their kids socialised. Nurseries socialise them with kids. They need to socialise with adults too to learn what real life is all about. Shopping trips, and everyday life with parents or other carers are important. And lots of chatting and not being treated like babies is great. I will never be convinced that nurseries are good for kids.

[Bobbisox1]

Due to my grandson being 3 and a half months premature and being on oxygen on the first year of his life, his social mixing was prohibited, he became a very shy little boy but when he went into nursery when he was 3 and mixed with other children , he gained confidence

[MissTerious]

My son was far from shy. Quiet but not shy. Had plenty of friends from way before school age and could socialise with adults very sensibly from a young age with a very good use of language. Also very well-behaved. I understand what you say though Bobbi about.your grandson. My son would have been miserable in nursery with routines like day time sleep. We don't do routines! It seems now that nurseries are seen as the way to go, even in wealthy families where there is no need for two salariesked kkk.

I did work when my son was little. OH would take over when I worked in the evenings, sold cattle food to farmers, barmaided, waitressed or worked from home. I went to back to working for what I was trained for when he went to school at 4, admittedly on a shorter day that fitted in with school hours. We were often strapped for cash but willing to give up all sorts of things so that we brought our kid up.

[MissTerious]

Kkk?

[Bobbisox1]

He only went afternoons for a year then school as he was a July baby so his school lif started at 4 yrs two months , I think grandparents play a huge role now , there seemed to be more of us at the school gates than young parents

[pastafreak]

Grandparents can play a big role if families live in close proximity to each other...does that still happen? Do young people stay in villages for instance.
I wish I could have experienced that. When I had my daughter by caesarean there was no one to help...family lived an hour away.

[Bobbisox1]

A lot was circumstances here Pasta, for my daughter to continue with her career they needed a none smoker to look after him as he was on Oxygen for the first year, sending him to nursery wasn’t an option because of any infections he might pick up , I retired 6 months early to look after him to allow her to go back to work

[MissTerious]

I would make a useless grandparent. I admit it. Apart from health difficulties there is no way I would offer to help out apart from emergencies or occasional babysitting. My mum babysat on occasions but there was no way she would take on regular duties. She enjoyed her freedom and made the most of her retirement years gallivanting until her health deteriorated in her 80s. My son and wife don't have kids. I think by choice, but we would never ask. I do get fed up with people asking me when I expect to be a grandmother!! We are not in the least interested in having grandchildren. I prefer dogs!,

[david small]

I was the chief nappy rinser, pre wash nappy’s for four kids. Soak them in large bin first. Thank goodness for nappy liners. We had a twin tub washing machine, wash, spin, on to the line, or the launderette to dry them. Pongy job, but necessary.

[Bobbisox1]

I boiled mine in a zinc pail on top of the cooker in Napisan

[MissTerious]

Good for you David. Many Dads didn't help back then. Fortunately I had one that did. My baby is 40 next year. I was 36 when I had him. Never wanted kids, but loved my years with a little chap that was a delight. Loved him to bits So glad we changed our minds. But we stuck to one.

[pastafreak]

My mum was already 70 when I had my daughter. I really couldn't have expected her to help. My SIL offered, but she had 2 adolescent boys and there was distance to consider. My sister worked full time. I'm not sure anyone understood the difficulty post c-section. I also had trouble getting going with nursing...there weren't health visitors as here...or at least I didnt know about it.

[bednobs]

there are plenty of ways to bring up children. Being potty trained at 18 months does not mean you were a better parent than someone whose lids werent potty trained till they were 3. some children thrive in nurseries, some hate them, some parents can afford to give up work (or not work) and others can't, some people prefer disposables, some prefer re-useable. Neither one is morally superior IMO. You dont see the same moralizing about, say, period products (which half the population use for about 40 years of their life)between advocates of reuseables and disposables .
There is more than enough guilt that goes with the territory of being a parent without other people poking their noses in and deciding their way is better and you are to be despised as being lazy for not doing it the same

[wolf63]

All my fellow ABers kids seem to have been late developers.

My babies were litter trained when they were weeks old and were so intelligent that they didn't need to go to school.