Would It Be A Good Thing If That Man Don't Come Back To Dogs Home?

[abbeylee90]

I thought I'd make a new thread so this man been on about in previous thread so I know from the dog's home had a strop other day as manager said he had to wear thier hi vi's vest with dogs home branded on when walking dogs. The manager didn't like my yellow jacket that he use to wear for work, and told him he had to wear one of theirs. So he told her that it was the lowest form of management "do as I say, not do as I do", as her and her staff never wear one, and that they should be setting an example to us walkers. She said I haven't got enough time to talk to you about this now, I said, "well you chose now to start it", and carried on, so it went from there. The staff wear thier uniform branded with dogs home. He hasn't been back since and not heard from him much either only when ge gave me a bag of treats to give to the dogs.

[barry1010]

It would be best for you if he didn't go back, the others think he is creepy so it is probably best for him too.

Block his number and ignore him, you've made it clear that you don't like him

[Neveracrossword]

Abbey, are you sure your post says what it's meant to say? You said  'The manager didn't like my yellow jacket..' and also ' I said, 'Well you chose now to start it..' Was the man wearing your jacket? Was it the man who said 'You chose now to start it'?  Did you hear the story from someone else?

To be honest, it's quite a long story about a minor spat, a minor spat that doesn't actually involve you. I don't know if it's a good thing if the man doesn't come back, maybe he's been quite useful to the dogs home in the past. Maybe he's been reliable, punctual etc - and maybe he does have a point about other staff members not wearing the required outfits. 

[Canary42]

Wearing Hi-Vis is a good idea when walking dogs on the road (for the walker and the dog).

However I do have sympathy with the guy not wishing to be a walking advert - personally I avoid all clothing which insists on displaying the maker etc. My personal choice, not a dictat.

Apart from coming across rather strongly at times, he sounds quite a nice guy.

[abbeylee90]

He is reliable and punctual also loves doing it but it's since an incident with a dog down there it's mandatory to wear thier hi vi's 

[abbeylee90]

She didn't like his yellow jacket I meant 

[Neveracrossword]

Well, if it's mandatory, he'll have to wear it - or he won't get to be a volunteer. It'd be a good thing for you if he didn't come back, as you seemed to have got in an awful muddle with him - finding him creepy months ago, going out for dinner with him last week and so on.

I think you should move on from this old guy now. I'm sure you'd rather concentrate on finding and getting a decent job, with decent hours and decent pay and with good co-workers.

[barry1010]

Having the name of the dogs home on the hivis is excellent, it makes the walker accountable.  If there is any sort of problems during the walks people will know who to contact.

[Canary42]

Good point Barry, hadn't occurred to me.

[abbeylee90]

Nevera I will as one I got now I don't enjoy and pay not great apart from being weekly.

Also speaking to a guy so see if I meet up with him after Xmas 

[andres]

Did you meet this new guy on one of your nights out this week?

[abbeylee90]

No a while we speaking but drifted apart for abit. 

[scorpiojo]

Does it matter, Abbey? As I said in your previous thread 

 

//You could have made it clear to him months ago that you weren't interested in him, Abbey (if he actually is interested in you as more than a friend), but you've kept on accepting lifts, lunches, dinner, the watch, as well as considering accepting invitations to go out with him and his friend(s)//

 

and you've previously said that your colleagues at the dogs' home think he sees you as a daughter. 

[abbeylee90]

They people in other threads said that why I thought I was being harsh 

[Redhelen72]

I thought your colleagues at the dogs home were kind about him originally saying your the daughter he never had etc etc?

getting involved with others slagging someone behind their back will never end well for you!

do your own work and mind your own business.

[Neveracrossword]

Abbey, you should have trusted your instincts... months ago! You said then that the man made you uncomfortable. It really doesn't matter what other people - here or in your real life - came up with. You kept on taking lifts, going out for dinner and even contemplating going out with him and five pals long after you first had misgivings.

[newmodarmy]

Well it's a shaggy dog story if ever I heard one.

I'm assuming you're asking if it'd be good for you as you want to avoid him. The answer is yes.

But if you're asking if it's good for the dogs home then I suggest you let them worry

[abbeylee90]

No not people from dogs home on threads from months ago that why I thought I might be overreacting and accepting lifts off him but I never went out with his mates well seems we've drifted abit since he not been coming to dogs home. If all goes well with this guy maybe I won't see him no more anyway  

[Floko]

From your post, it looks like you have "copied and pasted" his message to you and made a muddle of it.

Some of us originally thought he might be treating you as a daughter etc. BUT NOW WE DON'T.

You are not being harsh , just sensible. 

When did he give you the treats for the dogs ? Have you seen him ?

 

[Neveracrossword]

Abbey, we/you are going over old, old ground now - and it's time to move on.

 

PS You seeing or having a real boyfriend should have no bearing on your relationship with the old guy. I don't understand your 'if all goes well with (the new guy), I won't see him no more anyway'. 

[abbeylee90]

Yeah I did so it might make more sense.

Last night he rung asked was I home I said yes getting ready to go out as I knew I already had an excuse not to go out with him. I said can he not take them down and he said he don't think he welcome there so I took them today