going to see family

[spirale]

I have a problem, which occurs on an annual basis. Every year my mother, brother and I go and visit my mum's family in Prague. My dad used to come but as he complains about the sleeping conditions at my grandmother's flat in Prague, he does no longer come
with us. For the last couple of years we have been going
to Prague without him, he occasionally comes for one
week and stays in a hotel. We visit for three weeks in the
summer. During this time my dad complains about us leaving him alone and abandoning him in England, I do understand his views but who lives away from their home country and doesn't go back to their family (if it is affordable) for at least a couple of weeks a year and usually more. Anyway my mum usually books the flights around now, and doesn't tell my dad till about a month before we go due to the fact that it is horrible to endure and live under his constant complaining.
My mum does not want to repeat what happens each year and neither do me or my brother. I would love if it was possible to approach my dad and discuss the matter with him in a fair way, but I am so worried he will just become such a nuisance it will be difficult to do.
So, I appreciate any comments, support and help that you can give :)

[silverlace]

Dont let your dad spoil your holiday. He is acting like a spoiled brat. Dont let him make you feel bad. He obviously doesnt care that he makes you all feel bad every year. I think its really nice that you stay in contact with family. Ecspecially when they are in another country.

[waterboatman]

You need to sit him down and give him a good talking to! (don't worry about his feelings, he doesn't care about yours,) and make him see how selfish he is and how much he upsets everyone else.
Good luck

[brenda]

Leave him behind this time and you enjoy.

Hate to see moral blackmail being used, especially within families.

[spirale]

thank you for all your comments, sorry it took so long to reply too. My dad is generally a nice guy believe it or not, we don't usually argue and we all get on fine as a family, but when we go away to CZ to see family he always becomes very difficult and impossible to talk to in a constructive way. I would like to recommend to my family that we home exchange with someone in CZ, so we all go, but I know all my family would be nervous about this. Has anyone ever done a home exchange before, if so what was it like?

PS
Also I would like to add that I said in my post at the top that everyone goes back to their home country for at least a couple of weeks a year. Sorry, I just realised that it can be very difficult especially for refugees or people that can't go back to their home country or if you live far away, to visit your family for a couple of weeks a. What I meant by that is like if you live in Britain but were born in Europe you generally go back to your family.