Juggling A Full Time Job As Well As Chores Around House Etc

[muchlovex]

I am just wondering how other Abers juggle FuLL time work with grocery shopping, cooking meals, keeping the house tidy, dishes, gardening etc.

I do most of my chores/shopping on a weekend, and I am so tired at the moment.

I am always too tired to do anything once I finished work on an evening.

Does anyone have help from partners?

[sherrardk]

Why don't you get your shopping delivered, well worth the cost if you are working full time.

[grasscarp]

I have a full time job. My husband is retired. Even when we both worked he still did nothing around the house. He now does go out to the shops sometimes when I am at work and he wants to buy something for himself. He has never, correction once, cooked a meal for both of us in 35 plus years. This situation is probably my own fault as I watched my mother do everything and thought that was what women do. I shop between work and getting home. Cook and wash up etc Only really tidy and hoover when it is screaming out to be done. Sweep up leaves etc is me, put out rubbish etc ditto. Saint Grasscarp.

[Prudie]

We both work full time and share - you have to or it's not fair. He does all food shopping and cooking which is good as I hate it and I do cleaning and clothes washing. Still leaves plenty of slobbing time. Do you not have any help at all?

[bednobs]

i have a cleaner

[ubasses]

You need to both muck in when we both work first one home prepared dinner and started ironing I did all food shopping and loaded washing machine. He did hoovering and loaded dishwasher. Other than that we both pitched in.

[Eve]

I struggle due to health problems. Work and rest has to be my priority to keep a roof over my head, eat etc... so housekeeping has to fit in when it can. Don't get me wrong, I don't live in a squalor, nothing like! I'd so love to be able to get some cleaners in to do a proper full on deep clean, under and behind everything, skirting boards, give everything a damn good clean, get the carpets cleaned, all that.

I get shopping bit by bit through the week and am starting to get heavier bits delivered like cat food, cordial etc... get lots in to last me.

[muchlovex]

my OH has a bad back, so i do all the washing up, grocery shopping and tidying up. Most of the time I cook as well

[MrIncredible]

Ditto- Its a never ending job, add four kids into the mix as well, so you've got other chores like homework, uniform washing/ironing, shoe polishing, playing (very important) and a zillion other things! And now Mrs incredible wants me to do some decorating as well!
but its all about teamwork and sharing although saying that its probably one of the things we argue about the most (who's done the most chores!) and its nearly always me whose done the most!

[excelsior-1]

don't have a partner

[maggiebee]

Talked about this very thing today with a friend. Worked full time, brought up three children, shopped, cooked, cleaned, ironed etc. Don't know where I found the energy, couldn't do it now. Hubby always did the garden though.

[excelsior-1]

that should have said .. I don't have a partner

(i was not suggesting you get rid of yours)

[AlwaysConfused]

I work around 52 hours a week, sometimes much more. OH works 45 hours, so we share all duties. We get a monthly shop online, but pick up day-to-day pieces when needed. He'll do the obvious housework (washing up, hoovering, dusting etc) and I pick up on the things that males don't notice! I'm usually too tired once home from work, so I tend to get up early to get things done.

We both cook, and try to do enough to last two days (curry, chilli, lasagne etc are all still tasty the next day). I always do the roast on a Sunday and days like today when we are both completely knackered, we chucked pizza in the oven.

The dog gets an early morning run, an afternoon run and an evening walk. Who takes her is simply a question of who is home. We never talk about the housework, we seem to have an unspoken rule about who does what!
The only thing that winds me up.....when he picks up on one of my duties, like cleaning the toilet, he'll take great delight in letting me know that he cleaned the outside of the bowl as well as the inside. I resist telling him that's all part of cleaning the toilet, and go with 'well done', instead!

[ummmm]

Looking back I really don't know how I managed. 3 young kids, worked full time, spotless house, no help.

It's my partner now who changed me. His attitude is 'sit back, chill. no one is looking at the skirting boards'

My recommendation...buy bendy buckets.

[CoffeeLounge]

You have to compromise. And get help where needed. Other half to do his/her share. I worked full time and had two children and a dog. The dog was the okay one who didn't make that much mess.
I had someone to do my ironing and when supermarkets started to open late that was a bonus but online shopping also helped.
I would rather go out than do house work so we were never in and the hOuse didn't get that dirty/messy. The kids rooms were cleaned by them stripping beds and putting the sheets etc in the washing machine. We would help them to make them before bed. The kids were in charge of their rooms. My cleaning them usually involved closing the door so one could see the mess.
Dishes in the dishwasher so no one could see that mess. Do washing most days, drying most days all to make life easier.
my attitude is we are bringing up children to be capable of looking after themselves. How does it help the, to do everything for them?
Both my children live away from home now. I have no fears that they will not feed, clean or look after themselves properly. My sons wife can't believe what he will do for himself and my daughter who does not have a partner has certain criteria of what she wants in a partner. (God help,whoever she chooses)

[boxtops]

Going to work is important to me, it pays my bills and keeps the roof over my head - if the housework doesn't get done, it doesnt bother me. I can't do it all.

[mazie]

When I worked full time and the kids were young, I got up at about 4.30am and got most of the jobs done..I wonder now how I managed to do it all, but you do, don't you.

[boxtops]

No mazie.... what doesn't get done, doesn't. I'm not knocking myself out over housework.

[mazie]

Agree boxy...I wouldn't do it now, it's just not worth the hassle and stress. But I did back then

[Eve]

I get up before 5am to get to work anyway and knackered after so I'm with boxtops.

[cazzz1975]

I used to get up very early and give the house the once over before work, if done daily it doesnt take long at all. I would do the ironing at the weekends. I prefer to do the cleaning myself as I am more thorough :)