kvalidir - // Of course everyone does need to take repsonsibility for themselves- within the law. The problem with what she's saying is that she's implying that any woman who is foolhardy enough to go to a hotel with a strange man, can only expect one thing to happen. that by definition rubs off on men. If that's the commonly held belief in womankind then men have every right to say ' Well what did she think would happen, everyone knows what happens if you go to a hotel with a strange man?' and that's not okay. Clearly that is not okay. Men need to be clear and supported in the belief that it's simply NOT okay to rape anyone. Anywhere. Whatever they are wearing. However much they have had to drink. We ought to expect a better society, otherwise we are bound to never ever get one. //
Superb answer.
As we know from the lengthy debates regarding famous footballers and their appalling behaviour, there is a standard thought process among men that if a woman goes with a man to his hotel room she should not only expect sex as a matter of course, but not make a fuss over it, because it was her fault in the first place.
Until society can raise a generation of young men to respect themselves, and the women they co-exist with, this Neanderthal approach, and the dreadful unpunished assaults it causes, will go on.