My Bf His Wife And Me

[nehha]

Its like I am in love with a guy who was unfortunately married to an extremely callous lady....and so they are partying ways. Problem is that I have two years of education to go ad my parents are not willing for the marriage which is understandable. And the other side my bf's wife is a completely insane woman... she knew her husband has an affair for more than a year yet she made no issue and nor did she try to make the marriage work...now whn the question of divorce has arises...which arose from her side...she is wanting to dvorce...dont know when...but she keeps creating troubles between me and my bf. Its not that she loves him or wants to stay in the marriage, she is slightly jealous beause i am young and keeps talking to me about her looks...which kinda surprises me because here her marriage is hitting rock bottom and all she cares about is her looks. But these days she is acting funny and is saying she will ruin our lives, what should my bf do...shouldhe become discreet or should he let her know that he has an affair with me...recently she is saying that she doesnt care a Sugar as long as he doesn show her. So whats the right way to handle?

[bednobs]

get your own bf, not someone else's husband. BF should wait till he's at least seperated

[factor-fiction]

I'm confused as to whether she already knows about the affair with you. You say she does but then ask "should he let her know that he has an affair with me."

[hc4361]

How old are you? With 2 years of education in front of you and need of your parents' approval the best thing you can do is end it with the married man.

If you both feel the same when he is divorced and you are independent of your parents, then fine, you can resume the relationship.

[dotty.]

so he had an affair before he took up with you? She isn't the one creating troubles between you and your BF, you are the one creating troubles between her and her husband. you say she is completely insane and acting funny, i'm not surprised, are their children involved? when does she talk to you about her looks? when you've spent the night at her house with her husband?

[boxtops]

Whether or not they are splitting up, you are coming between a man and his wife - and I guess you are under 21 if you are still in education. The "insane" wife keeps creating trouble for you - I'm not surprised, you're with her husband. Why is she talking to you at all? If you get together with the man, do you think she'll leave you alone? - no, she won't if you are chatty with her. Get a life - get out of this relationship while you can, there is more to life than a mixed-up bloke. He's not your boyfriend, he's someone else's husband. I'd be mad too.

[Nini74]

are you a character in a soap opera?

[grasscarp]

Confused. You say your parents are not willing for the marriage. Not willing for what marriage. He is still married. He is not divorced.
You say you are talking to her. On what basis? As her friend? In which case you are a strange friend if you are having an affair with her husband.
Grow up nehha. You are a confused schoolgirl. Let your married lover sort out his marriage. There is no "right way to handle" a disintegrating marriage, if this is what it is, as you may have the misfortune to find out yourself one day.

[lcg]

you sat in the fire and are now surprised you are being burnt? i would concentrate on you and your education. your bf should sort out his own problems and wait for you (if he does love you and not see you as a convenient 'out' of his marriage)....possibly even living apart from you until things have cooled down and sorted out. you do not have to get your parents blessing or permission for marriage if you are over 18. if necessary (and you are living at home) you can also move out and forge your own way in the world. that is what being an adult is all about and if you can't deal with that, then maybe the relationship is doomed anyway. by the time i was 18, i had a toddler to look after, was living with my husband, went to college and worked to pay for all of this. this may sound harsh, but it is truth and the way of the world. his wife is not your concern - ignore any contact from her. your bf should also have the balls to deal with her and be the man that you want. if not, then maybe this relationship will not work, nor make you happy in the longer term. your education is most important, as you only get one go at life and you need to do it properly.