Would you be annoyed

[numnum]

Hi

I've mentioned on the site before how my boyfriend and I have bought his grannys house off his brother

We've owned the house for about 8 monhts now and when we got it his brother and wife had left a lot of furniture, curtains etc.

the whole house has been near enough rebuilt from the inside it was in such a bad state so everything was ripped out. there was several bits of furniture his brother left that belonged to his granny that i was planning to keep and do up and had kept them in part of the house that wont be getting done up at the moment

we went in the other day and noticed this bit of furniute is missing. we are now very angry and we have found out its now in his brothers house. they had no right to go into our house and take things out of it.

i mean, what are they going to take out next. we've taken the kitchen units down that he put in, while we're insulating the walls. is he going to come along and take the kitcen next!!!!! thats me just being angry

i don't know what to say. they did have the furniutre on display when they had the house but left it amount the rest of their rubbish. i got a number of trailor loads of rubbish they left.

what would you do/say?

[ummmm]

I would say 'what the feck do you think you're doing letting yourself into my house'!!

[boxtops]

I don't understand, numnum, but I remember your previous threads. If it's your house and you have bought it, how come you now say "it's his brother's house"? Have you bought it, or not? Why has the original owner still got keys?

There was a thread on here a few days ago about leaving things when you sell once the new owner takes over, those things belong to you, so the brother has stolen it if he took it without your permission. That's stealing, but how did he get in?

a) who actually owns this house?
b) why don't you change the locks?

[saxy_jag]

Get the locks changed/added to and don't give your BIL a spare key.

[numnum]

we live in an area where you don't knock you just go in so for the door to be open if my boyfriend nipped to the shop isn't unusual where we stay as most folk leave their houses open through the day here and when we do lock it we leave the key at his mums which is next door so he'd have got in somehow if it was locked

i think they still think its his brothers house even though we've paid for it

both doors will be getting changed and new locks

since this we are making sure the house is locked even if we nip out for 2 minutes

[andy-hughes]

This looks like the sort of misumderstanding that can cause family rifts that go on for years!

Your boyfriend needs to talk to his borhter and explain that the house - including the contents, now belong to you, and as such, you expect the respect for your property and posesessions that you would accord to him.

He - probably out of habit - has simply collected something which he believes to be his, without feeling the need to ask first, which to be fair, he should, but this is down to misunderstanding rather than malice aforethought.

A simple chat between the brothers should sort this out - get him on it before things fester and get out of hand.

[numnum]

thanks for your comments

i think this something that should have all been stopped before things got to this stage

theres a lot of background to this

his granny is still alive and thinks the brother gave us her house. so we are having to lie everytime we speak to her about the house. so something as small as coming in and taking a piece of furniture is now a major thing if you understand where i'm coming form

theres just that much thats gone on with this house sale including us thats had to pay all the brothers solicitor fees while he keeps all the land etc then this. its just very annoying how the whole famiy have kept there mouths shut even thought they think this is wrong. now i feel i cant mention the chair to anyone and my boyfriend is that wound up by the whole sitiuation he doens't want to discuss anythng with his brother/family

i told him from the start never do business with family!!! now we're the fools and everyone tip toes round his brother and we're the fools when we're rebuilding the family home and now one even cares

[smoochiegal]

I'd say change he locks or ask them for the kes it is your home now. I'd actually say to them you left the furniture here whe you moved out and we made plans for it and you have let yourself in and taken it and that it isn't on and you're annoyed.