flirty friend

[unhappychick]

I just want to know what other people make of this....I have a friend, who is attractive but I think insecure...when she met my last fella she went from being normal chatty and having a laugh to standing there kidding herself and pouting as she spoke...my fella took no notice so she went back to normal again.....However when she saw a pic of my new man, she made it clear that she thought he was very good looking and to be honest she annoyed me a bit by her reaction to seeing his pic, I would say it was a bit over the top, they havent met as of yet, she emailed me the other day and said she thought she saw him on the train on the way home from work, now bearing in mind that she has never met him just seen a pic on facebook, I was suprised that she noticed him, she said next time she sees him shes going to say hi....now she normally goes to work dressed casually with no make up, she emailed me today to say she decided to do herself up and wore a dress and hold ups, heels...I think she has done it in the hope that she bumps into my fella again, as she seeks attention from men big time...her relationship is in a mess and mine is going well....I feel irritated by her as I would never flirt round any of my friends fellas, do you think im over reacting?

[five2two7]

I think you should keep her away from your man!... Send her my way in hold ups and heels though! hehe

[unhappychick]

Thanks, I would gladly send her your way if only I knew where you were! lol

[redcrx]

nope, not over reacting, Id get peed off with her

why would she wear hold-ups? is she gonna flash someone?

god i hope that its someone that looks like you fella pmsl

[unhappychick]

Nope it was definately him, she gave me a detailed description of what he was wearing! so was obviously having a good look!!!

I feel like saying something to her but dont know what? any ideas anyone?

[redcrx]

how about asking her why she feels the need to talk to your boyfriend when she doesnt even know him.

[cazzz1975]

oo er she sounds like the friend from hell, I would give her a wide birth or tell her husband in an amused fashion how she is after your man.

[five2two7]

unhappy, im in the mids.. send her along

[unhappychick]

I feel like not bothering with her anymore....at the end of the day, I would never do that to my mates blokes, If I thought they were good looking that would be as far as it went....I really want to say something to her, but will end up being nasty...im so glad you dont think im over reacting....as soon as I read the email from her saying how she had got herself all done up, I knew straight away whose benefit it was for...you know when you get that gut instinct...strange how, she normally goes to work casual/no make up etc and a day after she saw my bloke on the train...this big effort with appearance....need I say anymore

[China Doll]

I think you're completely overreacting... If she wants to make a tit of herself over your bloke who I'm sure you trust implicitly then that's her business. If she wants to doll herself up then that is also up to her. If she irritates you that much then stop being friends with her, otherwise get on with your relationship and leave her to it.

[4getmenot]

Theres a limit I will flirt my bloke will flirt and I don�t mind if girls flirt with my bloke as at least I know its not just me that finds him irresistible. Lol but if it goes too far have a word.

[pinksmartie]

Say something to her. If it ends up being nasty, it ends up being nasty. After all, eyeing up your mate's bloke isn't eactly the nicest thing to do is it, so she needs to be told. And if you don't really want to be friends with her then it solves both of the problems :)

[redcrx]

ok china, say youve got an absolutely fave perfect pair of shoes, no-one else has a pair like them and you never share your shoes.
your friend comes over one day dolled up to the nines, but wearing trainers and starts saying how lovely your shoes are sitting there in your wardrobe. she starts making a play for your shoes in the hope that she gets to wear them.

do you claw her eyes out?? :)

[unhappychick]

redcrx...hilarious!

Ive just sent her a reply, saying what did you wear a dress for in this waether and hold ups...hmmm your not trying to get someones attention are you?!!!

Lol it had to be done!

[4getmenot]

See if someone did that to my bloke he really wouldn�t have a clue if they were flirting with him or not. Lol If he did it would scare the ***** out of him

[888sally888]

She sounds a right old slapper and I wouldnt want her as my friend!!

Get rid asap.

[4getmenot]

oh my god I cant even put sh!te

[unhappychick]

I am going to get rid...she can sod off....The shame of it is, she can be a lovely person, but as soon as a man is round she changes completely and gets carried away with herself, I spoke with my other mate about it and she said, its because of you, I said why? she said she obviously feels threatened when your about...dunno why, ive never done anything to make her feel that way, just been myself!

[4getmenot]

If she can be lovely then maybe give her a chance to change talk to her about it, she may not know she�s doing anything wrong

[andy-hughes]

Your friend is obviously feeling insecure, and in need of some attention.

This is just attention-seeking behaviour - the need to are-affirm her attraction, especially if her relationship is not going well.

She is obviously jealous, and is keen to make sure that you know what she is doing - probably to provoke a reaction.

How you handle it depends on how you feel about her, and about him.

If you trust your boyfriend, it doesn't matter what she does - nothing is going to happen unless he wsants it to.

But if you feel insulted, and her bahviour makes you feel insecure, you should consider that she isn't being that much of a friend.

Solution - you can either ditch her, or, if you feel your friendship is important, have a chat with her about her boyfriend, since her relationship with him is at the root of her unhappiness, and her subsequent behaviour.

Have a think about it - maybe she is trying to get some attention from you as well, but just doesn;t know the right way to go about it.

I'd be inclined to try for a chat - if it blows into a row, then at least you have tried.

[Scarlett]

Grief, she sounds unbearable! She is probably an aries. Or a virgo. She sounds really insecure and probably has no idea just how obvious she is being. I think you should point it out to her- don't pout- don't doll yourself up for my boyfriend! And also warn him about her so he knows to be extra cool to her if they do meet.