Spanking Your Children

[spathiphyllum]

For, against, or it's no one elses business what you do behind closed doors?

https://globalnews.ca/news/5096786/banning-spanking-children/

I don't see the issue with striking the bottom of your own infant. There is a difference between spanking a child, and then child abuse.

[Calicogirl]

//But sometimes spanking is a knee jerk reaction in a heated or dangerous situation where you need to put an end to it, and let the child know a few things in a short space of time.//

Kneejerk reactions let kids know things alright- it lets them know you are out of control- brilliant example of how not to behave.

I would never hit a child, it's completely wrong, unnecessary and sets an appalling example of how to respond to situations you don't like. It also causes issues for the child as an adult, my father was physically abused as a little boy by his apology of a father and Mr Cal by his stepfather. My dad had massive anger management and violence issues as well as addiction problems and ended up in prison for a long time because of that. Mr Cal went completely the other way and hates conflict of any sort and is just really, really sad about it and it's caused something of a distance between he and his Mum that she allowed it to happen.
I was never hit as a child, there is no need. My mother was never hit as a child (my grandmother is 80) so it's not a generational thing at all and I can't see why anyone thinks it's necessary?

[gness]

Would it not be better, Spath....much better....to bring your children up to want to behave well because that's the right thing to do rather than behave well when you're around because they don't want to be hurt.....

I think much of what you're posting is poppycock....if not then I feel as sorry for your future children as I did for the kids at school who were "smacked" as you call it...... :-(

[nailit]

//and I can't see why anyone thinks it's necessary?//
Me neither Cal.
Hitting someone that cant hit back?....Whats that word Im looking for?

[tamborine]

Told my 7y gson off for pulling my y terrier with towel tug o war. Gson wailed to son (father) & son said I was wrong to upset gson - never mind my dogs teeth! Now I lock my dogs away from gkids.

[BagPussAA]

I was spanked as a child and I deserved it. I was at school when corporal punishment was still allowed and enforced. I got caned there too on occasion and it never did me any harm and it taught me to respect my elders a lot more than a simple time out or detention ever would. I think if it is done correctly and for the right reasons, then it should be allowed.

[spathiphyllum]

any chance i could get a cheeky spank?

[david small]

I second bagpussaa.

[Baldric]

// then come back and we'll try an adult conversation on the topic //

Just not going to happen any time soon, is it?

[spathiphyllum]

Most elders will have experienced physical punishment by belt or cane and they cam out just fine. I'm sure an open handed spank on the bottom can't cause many mental illnesses there must be more to the story or situation

[spathiphyllum]

"Or maybe the child has emotional/psychiatric problems that need addressing with LOVE. Not beatings! "

Maybe but doing the same thing and expecting a different result is the definition of insanity.

[spathiphyllum]

Baldric i would like to know your opinion of spanking (not smacking, which seems to be the topic at hand)

[Rockrose]

Early in you state it is ok for a parent to smack their 40 year old child - I’m sure you will find this may be considered assault

[nailit]

//Maybe but doing the same thing and expecting a different result is the definition of insanity//

Exactly! Stop assaulting children and have the patience, love and maturity that a parent should have to find out the core issues rather than responding with a knee jerk reaction...

[Mamyalynne]

No Baldric, it isn't - I wasn't planning on holding my breath thank goodness.

[spathiphyllum]

"Early in you state it is ok for a parent to smack their 40 year old child - I’m sure you will find this may be considered assault"
they will still see them as their child and they're still their parents, different to me and a random adult situation

[Calicogirl]

If my parent smacked me, I'd smack 'em back, because it would mean that they had no respect for me and were thus undeserving of any themselves. Fortunately my parents would never do that.

[Baldric]

I am totally against violence of any kind in a parent/child situation.

[spathiphyllum]

what do you mean they feed, water ,wash and look after you all ur life of course they have respect for you. Respected is earned, not by behaving in ways to get yourself spanked. Why respect a little brat? I'm sure you wouldn't and i'm sure there have been situations where you've seen a mother in town and had sheer sympathy for her because of her ill behaved children. Not to mention on public transport now imagine how they could behave at home. Kids are too influenced these days by social media and games etc.. Yes don't let your kids use those in the first place but they get laptops, go on youtube etc.. Pick up things you never knew they could

[spathiphyllum]

A spank doesn't have to be violent, it can be a principle. A bend over the knee if you would