Spanking Your Children

[spathiphyllum]

For, against, or it's no one elses business what you do behind closed doors?

https://globalnews.ca/news/5096786/banning-spanking-children/

I don't see the issue with striking the bottom of your own infant. There is a difference between spanking a child, and then child abuse.

[spathiphyllum]

actually i think that would be the grown up thing for you and douglass to do, just walk away try not to get too involved obviously i dont want to traumatise you with my insensitive trolling. Pffffffft.

[ummmm]

I don't dominate anyone else either. We're all equal in this house.

[spathiphyllum]

never ask anyone to do anything for you? Never do anything for others? Never get your own way? I highly doubt it.

[spathiphyllum]

I think people have read into the word dominance in a very warped way. If so that's actually disturbing.

If a child is dominant over you then you need supernanny.

[Calicogirl]

Utter rubbish, one shouldn't dominate or be dominated by a partner in day to day living (unless it's a very specific sort of relationship). Bedroom matters are different, but if Mr Cal tried to tell me what I could and couldn't do in daily life he'd be in for a real shock and he wouldn't want that in a partner anyway. Relationships are about balance, not bullying, and so is parenting.

[woofgang]

Spath do you know what "moot" means?

[spathiphyllum]

bullying? please you have no idea what i'm getting at clearly.

[ummmm]

That's not dominance, Spath!! I make my OH lunch, he doesn't expect it though.

[douglas9401]

I see what's happened. It's a basic lack of understanding of the meaning of words.

Maybe not trolling after all but a failure of the education system.

[Calicogirl]

Look if I want to do something and Mr Cal say I can't and forces me not to do it, so gets his own way that's bullying Spath. Equally if he wants to wear something and I say that's not suitable for wherever he's going and make him feel rotten about it then that's bullying.
If our child does something wrong and we don't sit down with him and try to find out why he's done it, if there is an underlying reason and tell him why he shouldn't do it, and instead smack him and say ' Don't do that' then that's bullying also. That is what bullying is.

[B00]

"Relationships are about balance, not bullying, and so is parenting. "

I agree, up to a point. Between two grown adults equality is the key, however in my opinion children are not equal, they're here to follow the example we set them, and one of those examples is right from wrong. If a smack on the bottom achieves that, and it did in my household, im going down that route.

At the end of the day, we're not our children's friends- we're there parents.

[B00]

*their parents- before im corrected ;-)

[spathiphyllum]

I mentioned dominance and you started talking about the bedroom so that jsut says where your mind is / was at. We're talking parent kid not you and mr calico. Every situation is different.

[Sqad]

Another winner from BOO.

[spathiphyllum]

I think you're drastically playing down the word bullying. Bullying is intended harm. If you think askign your partner to change attire to make them look better in your opinion, how on earth is that bullying? We're going off on a limb here lets try get back to the body of topic?

[Calicogirl]

I was discussing dominance within relationships because YOU sated every relationship has a dominant partner and I said that ought only to occur in the bedroom because everywhere else things should be balanced and equal.

[spathiphyllum]

there is no "should be" relationships are what they are, two people together. Some relationships are built from hate but we're not going into ever nook and cranny of relationships now are we. The topic is parent child

[Calicogirl]

Well you were always chummy with her in all her incarnations Spath.