What to do?

[ummmm]

I've mentioned before that my Mum is a born again Christian. My son goes to her house at least once a week. The last few weeks he's been getting more and more worried about going. Today he told me that she's scaring him. All she talks about is when Christians die they will be going to heaven. She's talking about people like herself....He's now scared of me dying and worried that I'm going to hell.

Would you stop him seeing her if it was your child?

Besides this problem she's a good person...she just seems to be getting more and more obsessed the older shes getting...

[naomi24]

Difficult isn't it. She's his grandmother so you think she ought to have some sort of a relationship with him, but at the same time she's a danger to him. I honestly think you have no option but to keep him away Ummmm. If she wants to see him she knows where he is. If she doesn't, then sadly, so be it.

[naomi24]

A 12 year old shouldn't have thoughts of dying rammed into his head - it's a simple as that. As I said, religion screws with the mind!!

[ponjee]

aww your son is so sweet. well if you have been a good man, not breaking any of His commandments, etc. Then you should be goingto heaven, and then your son wouldnt have to worry.

[carrust]

You're going to have a word with your mother on the situation, as your priority must be with your son.
I once had the longest week of my life working with a born again. All he could talk about was religion, he read the bible at break times & listened to religious music constantly.
I challenged his theory of creationism over evolution, when I mentioned that there is cast iron proof of evolution in fossils, he said, "God put them there"....

[naomi24]

carrust, you'll never get any sense out of a Born Again Christian. I once returned from lunch to an office full of weeping girls because a Born Again Christian had told them they were all going to fry in hell. Completely irrational!

[ummmm]

I'm not a man....

Just to make it clear...my son is, and always will be my first priority. Being my priority I have to look at all angles. She's making him worry unnecessarily....but stopping him from seeing her can also make him worry unnecessarily. Because I don't really see her anymore and I no longer speak to my Sister (different issues) he'll worry that they'll be slagging me off because of it. My sister bad mouthing me seems to be her favourite past time...

Carrust...that's just like her.

[carrust]

Before he became born again he was into witchcraft & the occult. He spent his time converting people who had gone over to the dark-side into Christians. I suppose he swapped from one addiction to another.
Isn't there a guy on here who is a recovering alcoholic who's now a born again?

[Ankou]

i think thats exactly it carrust. they have issues and use various obsessions to express it. when they find religion all hell breaks loose (quite literally in their minds i think).

[ummmm]

Don't know Carrust.

My Mum found God when I was in my early teens. I'd left home by then so it didn't really have an affect on me. It started off well because she seemed so happy...but over the years it's just got so bad that you can't have a conversation with her anymore :-(

[naomi24]

That's so very sad Ummmm.

[ummmm]

It is because she use to be good fun with a great sense of humour. It's all lost on her now.

The day she wrote to complain about this ad expressing her concern that someone could think more of a box of cereal than they do a child is the day I knew there was no return..

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cRtRDppXpng

[Dozy-Mare]

ummmm are you not religious?

[ummmm]

I believe in God...

[Dozy-Mare]

So you're not part of any faith? What do you believe happens to us when we die? Also you believe in god enough to believe he exists but don't follow a particular belief system? Any reason for this?

[ummmm]

I'm a Catholic. My children are Catholics. My Mum was a protestant until she became born again.

[Dozy-Mare]

Im not sure exactly what Catholics or Christians believe in, but aren't they similar? What do you teach him, because he should be listening to his mothers teachings over an obsessed grandmother.

[ummmm]

I don't teach him anything except to be a good person no matter what. I believe we would have the same set of morals regardless of my belief in God. I don't force religion on them. They get religious education at school...then they are free to make their own minds up.

[Dozy-Mare]

Interesting, when i first asked you what your faith was you didn't say catholic, you just said "believe in god' yet you now say that you're catholic and your kids are catholic, but you don't teach them catholicism and you don't want them to have religion forced down their throats and they're free to make their own minds up. This really makes no sense at all, are you catholic or not its a simple choice, and yes if you are going to follow a religion then you usually must force it down their throats such is the nature of religion.
if you really wanted them to make up their own minds then you never would've labeled them "catholic" i assume you have had them blessed, communion etc?or maybe its a choice you're fighting with? Do you doubt your own religion ummmm? Is this what it boils down to, because if so i do understand as me myself was religious as a child and even up to last year and then i started doubting myself, i still believe in god but now follow no religion, i just hope its not a choice i will regret when i finally leave this world.

[ummmm]

Dozy-Mare...with all due respect this question is not about me and my beliefs. It's about a child seeing his Grand Mother who is scaring him about death.

You asked - ummmm are you not religious?

I answered - I believe in God...

What I believe is not the question...