If your question was //what hope do you have if all what you ever denied turns out to be true?// no one has tried to avoid answering it, Keyplus. The concept of this 'hope' you speak of doesn't exist for those who accept that when their lives are over, they will die.
What does religion stop people from doing? Without going into great detail yet again, consider the Church's attitude to the use of condoms, and Islam's appalling attitude to women. And what about arranged marriages? By your own admission your children won't be allowed to marry people you disapprove of.
No, I don't think the main problem always starts when individuals make their own 'goods and bads', and there is no book from which we have 'learnt all these words and characteristics'. That comes from the ability to think freely, which is something you have never experienced because your religion makes you incapable of it. I challenge you to find fault with my suggestion that if religion died tomorrow, and we endeavoured to love our fellow man to the best of our ability, the world would be a better place. Of course, you'd have to accept that you wouldn't have eternal life, and since you've admitted previously that without that aspiration you wouldn't believe in your god, that is your real stumbling block to facing reality. Quite simply, you are afraid of death.