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How Do I Get Out Of The Christmas 'Do'?

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Treacle71 | 09:06 Wed 16th Oct 2024 | Business & Finance
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They're arranging a Christmas night out in December at work. The email reads 'management want to thank us for our hard work this year', but we're to pay £35 for this 'thank you' ourselves.  They're not paying.  I can't afford £35 this Christmas, plus the venue is far from where I live.  It's also on a night I don't work; so I'd have to travel in on my day off.  I don't want to go. How can I get them to accept I pure and simply don't want to go? I only like my own friends to socialise with and I never socialise with people from work. Guy in the office doesn't seem to understand 'no' and is pushy.

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That's outrageous. Tell the guy to *** off.
09:11 Wed 16th Oct 2024

Just say you don't want to go.

That's outrageous. Tell the guy to *** off.

Use your contacts in the reporting world to get word to the top.

It's not compulsory is it? RSVP = No thanks.

A bit much to ask you to pay. How is that a thank you? 

Just say no!

Just say No thank you

Treacle, I’ve encountered this issue before, and the best approach is to firmly say, ‘Sorry, I can’t come.’ There’s no need to explain further; simply state that you can’t attend. If pressed, just mention that you have other commitments that cannot be altered.

Frankly, I find it outrageous that you are expected to pay for your own Christmas party. Shouldn’t it be the responsibility of management to cover the venue costs as a gesture of appreciation?

You had the same issue last year, where you were complaining that your boss wasn't paying for you.

You simply say "no thank you".

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Exactly, lolasmam and have to pay £35 to get a thank you?  Seems weird.

 

...so you'd go if it was free?

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I can't because I'm not in the vicinity on that day, Tora.  Yes, I'd go if I could of course and it was free - who wouldn't.

Depending on what's planned some companies do ask for a contribution towards Christmas festivities.   No one is obliged to go though.

you would make the effort to go if it was free but not if you had to pay?

Just be a grown up and say no.

//I'd go if I could of course and it was free - who wouldn't.//

 

I certainly wouldn't go just because it's free.  

Neither would I, if I didn't like the people I worked with and had as many issues with the bosses - then spending an evening with them would be the last thing I would do - free or not!

Accept charity?! Pah! and Haaah! in equal measure.

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I would naomi.  I would.  I don't want to shell out £35 for a thank you when I could get it for free.

Reminds me of my last boss. He took his direct reports (including me) out for Christmas Lunch, we had to pay but his idea of a treat was getting a cut rate deal at his Golf Club. The food was dire and the ambience depressing.

But you can't get it for free, Treacle.  I would either want to celebrate Christmas with my colleagues or I wouldn't.   For me, that would be the deciding factor.

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