Meeting up with an old ex

[jibjab]

hey.....i was supposed to meet an old ex of years ago today (we were going to meet on friday but she put it back to monday).......anyway she seemed very keen to meet up and no mention of a boyfriend or anything....

then today i have heard nothin whatsoever even though i have emailed her to see if she still wants to meet.

Has she had cold feet? I usually get regular emails from her but today not even one, so im guessing shes pulled a sicky or is just ignoring me because shes had second thoughts???

[Aliceband]

jibjab.... you soon got over your girlfriend then :)

[Aliceband]

Is that what she is telling you? or are you just assuming it.

She may be telling you that, to get a reaction. As 4getmenot replied in your post below. Someone women say things just to get some sort of reaction from a man.

I still think you and her should try and work things out.

[kazzianne]

jibjab - please dont take this the wrong way - you're not a kid,and yet over the last few weeks you have posted loads of times,yet all about the same subject - your ex or your old ex!!

Why dont you just move on and forget the pair of them? Get out ,have fun,dont try to get one night stands,just be yourself and you will find somebody new when you least expect it.I really wish you well.x

[Aliceband]

Oh, is this a long running story Kazzianne?

Was doing my Claire Raynor bit. Better ignore my advice then jibjab....as I have only caught your last 2 threads.

[kazzianne]

its a long long story - put jibjab into 'search'.

Im not making fun jibjab - just filling Alice in on the story.

[4getmenot]

I really think after reading all your different posts you actually don�t need to move on straight away at all. You need to work on yourself. It seems more to me you need someone to make you whole. You should be happy with yourself as a whole before you go on any of these dates with ex�s. And when you are happy then move on to new people, make sure these ex�s are just that ex�s!

[Miss Zippy]

I agree with 4getmenot. Spend some time on yourself, getting to know what you want in life and building up your self esteem etc. Accept that you�re going to feel rotten for a while because you�ve just come out a relationship with a person you love(d) and you wouldn�t be human if you didn�t feel hurt. Jumping into another relationship isn�t the answer: it might mask for the pain for a bit but the upshot is you need to get over your ex before embarking on something new. There�s no point flitting from one unhappy relationship to another and I think at the moment you are �desperate� to get into another relationship, whether it�s because you don�t like being alone, you think it will ease the hurt you�re feeling right or now or just because you want your ex to see you�re moving on. Cut out your ex from your life and don�t let anyone else mess you around. Others will treat you how you let them treat you.

[kissyfur]

Ive read all the questions/ansers you've posted on here over tha last few months after reading what kazianne put. And mate, to be fair, this girl has got you right where she wants you.. To me its sounds like she likes to keep you hanging on, dangling the carrot etc, just incase one day she decides that single lifa aint that good and she wants you back. Trust me hun ive done it! I think most people, if they are honest have, keep in touch with the ex incase nothing better comes along.

[kissyfur]

ok ive read alllll the questions you've posted on here over the last few months. And mate to be fair this girl has got you right where she wants you. She seems to be dangling the carrot right infront of you,just enough to keep you hanging on just incase single life isnt all its cracked up to be. And lets be honest I think most people have done this at some point, kept in touch with the ex, just incase nothing better comes along!

4getmenot is very right, you need some time out of all this girl stuff. A one nighter will make you feel crap to be fair. Have you not got good mates you can go out with and have a laugh?

Trust me us girls have good intuition, we can spot a guy who out for one thing a mile off. And as much as we like to have fun, its not really a selling point!

[muppeteer]

if i were you, i would send her an e-mail telling her you have changed your mind & dont think its a good idea to meet. let her know that you need to just "be" for a while. you will be surprised at how different it feels when you take control for yourself. dont just sit around & wait for somone to decide if they want to see you or not...have some dignity & respect for yourself and others will start to do the same.

[bellasasha]

why dont you just go out and meet someone new and forget you exes....they are exes for a reason!!!!