Soul Mates

[nat_84]

OK Basically... ive been with my fella for about 10 months now... but we argue at least once a day. I can go from being on the biggest high in our relationship - to the biggest low - (When we start arguing).... and then i start questioning whether or not we're meant to be?

Im not sure if im just being a typically 'never happy' kinda woman but i just dont feel like we're 'soul mates'.... dont feel like we have the conneciton that i could have with possibly someone else.....?

I always complain that he's not touchy/feely enough... not in a sexual way but just a comfoting way, could never imagine staying up all night just talking, etc etc..

Anyone understand? Or believe in 'Soul Mates'?

[stylinsam]

hi nat although i have a really good relationship with my bf we still argue most days but not big major arguments just silly things like when he thinks hes right about something and i no hes wrong (you no how it is girls lol)!!! and we will argue unitl i give in! i dont have late night conversations with my bf cos some men arnt like that, you have gotta take the ups with the downs unfortunatly and Yes i do beleive in soul mates cos iv found myn!
hope this helps
SSx

[nat_84]

Hey Pinkfizz - lol. It is just silly bikering, more annoying stupid stuff. Very rarely do we row FULL SCALE. Only done that a few times.

Im extremely stubborn and he says stupid things that get to me - so together it causes conflict - which can last quite a while.

An example, may help you identify with us... a typical one to say the least...men and their bloody computer games... we both come home from a days work(or in my case a day of sitting at my desk chatting on AB).. he usually picks me up and we'll either stay at his or mine. When we stay at his he is usually straight onto his computer -beit the internet to check the latest Liverpool news or his XBox 360 to knock some other fella in America out on a boxing game.... It just stresses me out and ive told him over and over again, so now i just get fed up of saying anything and then he goes "whats wrong? i know when ur pissed off etc etc".

To be fair we've sort of approved on that front and he's not on it as much - but its silly things like that...

[stylinsam]

i understand what your saying pink fizz you just hate it when you wanna spend time with your man and he cant be bothered, men dont seem to function when we say we wanna spend time with them. here you are:
what men think spending time with there girl means : il play on the computer and she can watch !! shes still sitting next to me so that must mean we are spending time together.

what women think spending time with their guy means: snuggling up on the sofa loads of hugs and kisses and talking about how many kids we want or where we wanna move !

[nat_84]

lol - yeah stylinsam that's definately about right.

It is reassuring to hear that most men/relationships are like that!

[stylinsam]

yeah dead right hun i mean arguing everyday is a bit extreme i mean if its full on rows but if it bickereing then i mean its something i do everyday with my bf, to be honest i have friends who hardly ever argue and there relationship is no where near as strong as myn and my boyfriends i think it helps to argue sometimes but also i heard you meantion something about you spend all your time together maybe this is getting a bit much and you should cut down on seeing eachother, you no what they say abscence makes the heart grow fonder

[nat_84]

Yeah im pretty sure thats why we bicker - too much time together... Although saying that we hate it when we're apart coz we're so used to being around each other.... but anyway,

I just think 'we're young, we'll learn'.

Girls will be girls and boys will be boys...

[ipek]

Good decision Nat - best of luck!

[joko]

the trouble with a lot of relationships is one person EXPECTS the other to think/behave/feel like them and gets offended and outraged when they don't.
people do what is in their nature to do. they can be forced, cajoled, asked encouraged, etc but essentially they are just not that kind of person.

People must accept and realise that this person is not a clone of you.
They have not been brought up like you, taught like you, lived like you, etc, they are them and they have a different way of being and doing things, if people can accept that their loved one is just like that, then they will be a lot happier.

enjoy them for the way they are not for the way you think you can mould them to be.

it is the one who you can truly say that there is nothing you would change about them that is your soul mate