Terminal Bone Cancer

[nailit]

Mum was diagnosed just over a year ago with terminal (bone) cancer.
For the most part of the last year you wouldn't have thought that there was anything wrong with her apart from old age (87 this year) However the last few weeks have been a bit rough. She's now in a lot of pain and struggling to breathe. Cancer now infecting her spine, collar bone, ribs etc.
She refuses to go into hospital (I think that she fears dying alone with no visitors).
McMillan have been in touch but not much use other to enquire about bowel movements...they seem to have an obsession about how much she sh!ts and not about how much pain she is in.

She doesnt want to die in hospital, full stop!
Just dont know what to do to help her.
She could go on for months like this or she could die tonight judgeing by the state she was in today. (coughing and *** herself at the same time)
McMillan have been less than useless (unless it concerned bowl movements).

Hope I die before I get old....
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[Milo2]

One of my relatives was cared for by Hospice at Home. I’m don’t know how it was arranged but it might be worth looking into as the care she received was excellent.

[chrissa1]

So sorry to read this, nailit. Is she not being prescribed morphine for her pain? My sister died in 2017 in a lovely hospice and her pain was carefully controlled.

[marval]

Sorry to hear this Nailit, it is dreadful that no care has been put in place.

I think you need to phone her Doctor, be prepared to get the situation across.

My thoughts and prayers are with you all at this difficult time.

[Rosie29]

I am so very sorry Nailit. I can't really add anything to what has already been said but truly my heart goes out to you x

[Cloverjo]

Nailit, it might be worth popping into the Good Morning Early Birds thread tomorrow. Waterboatman has a lot to do with hospices at home. He might be able to offer some advice.

[Maydup]

I feel for you Nailit and for your dear Mum.

Call the GP in the morning and ask for an urgent referral to Hospice at Home care.

[Old_Geezer]

You can only be attentive and tend to her needs. Just being there helps. (If lockdown allows.) It should be possible to get pain relief etc. at home. But you'd need to discuss with the doc.

[iluvmargie]

Surely your dear Mum should be on a morphine drip to ease her pain and then she should be able to die at home. I don't blame her for not wanting to die in a hospital. Hope you both find your peace soon xx