Is 20 Stone Obese?

[abbeyleigh]

I'm talking to this guy from a dating site who says he is 20 stone and I just wondered would that be overweight in a man?

[MissTerious2]

My son met his wife online, but not on a dating site. It was on a music forum. They shared the same musical tastes and arranged to meet up. No photos exchanged or descriptions. It was attraction at first sight for both. After 15 years together they are still an ideal match. I must admit she's exceptionally pretty.

[LadyCG]

Like I said, I was just being tongue-in-cheek.

Online dating does work and studies have shown that it is the best way to meet people and that those who marry after meeting online have a better chance of staying together.

That aside, I previously dated two other chaps (not at the same time), one an RAF Squadron Leader and the other a Solicitor. I never felt it with either of them but we stayed friends. They both went on to meet other women on the same site and are now both married, as did I. I actually know a good few marriages that have come out of the site I met my husband on.

[mjwman]

Its classed as obese. Not morbidly obese though, that really Is overweight!

[jno]

here's a man weighing 20 stone but he's 6 foot 5.

https://www.mirror.co.uk/sport/rugby-union/meet-nemani-nadolo-fijis-6ft-6468852

He's not overweight. On the whole, though, I suspect naomi's right and your average 20-stone man is either overweight or undertall. This might be an appropriate time to ask for a photo.

[pastafreak]

I'd say it's undertall in this case...she said he's 5'10".

[jno]

yes, I somehow missed the middle pages of this thread. 5ft 10 and 20 stone doesn't sound ideal. He might still be a nice guy, but I'd be worrying if he was my partner.

[douglas9401]

I wouldn't worry too much, jno, it's difficult to save fatties from themselves.
Between the slow metabolism, allergies, over eating and big bones it's tiring, listening to the endless excuses.

[barry1010]

I never made excuses for my morbid obesity, not once. I love food.

[Buenchico]

They say that a picture tells a thousand words . . .
https://www.express.co.uk/life-style/diets/580346/Twenty-stone-man-lose-weight-too-fat-to-share-bed-with-wife

[jno]

some excuses may be genuine. When my parents married they were the same size and shape (on the skinny side, as postwar people were, and 5ft 9). They had the same lifestyle and the same diet. And yet the one who walked a mile each way to work every day got fat; the one who stayed at home raising a family didn't.

I can't think of any reason for this except genes. That may be a rational explanation but I have no idea if it's the correct one.

[Gromit]

Yes.
I am 6 foot and weigh 13 stones.
If had another 7 stones on me, I would be very very fat.

[barry1010]

jno, what was your dad eating at work?
Bet your mum was on the go too

[jno]

barry, I underspoke: he actually walked to work and back twice a day for years because we had our main meal at "lunchtime" - we kids came home from school for it. A rather odd way of managing the day, and it helped when we got a car when I was 10 or so. Evening meal was just sandwiches or a salad for all. Mum didn't walk anything like that far, just half a mile to the shops and back every two or three days (no fridge), with kids in prams/pushchairs or on reins as required.

[pixie374]

You can still be overweight and overmuscled... the BMI is only a rough guide- but it isn't all about "fat" - it still does put unnecessary strain on your body if you are excessively muscled as well. Toned and lean is healthiest, no matter what your height it. Anything "excessive" is less healthy.

[pixie374]

Even your example, jno... I would fully put money on him living a shorter time, than a 5ft nothing 6 stone elderly lady. The lighter you are, the less your body struggles- it's why women generally live longer, because they are just smaller.

[barry1010]

My dad always came home for lunch, too. He was outside all day on his bicycle.
I remember one winter he was so cold he couldn't unfurl his hands from the handlebars.

[jno]

sure, pixie, I remember Jonah Lomu dying at 40. He'd been one of the all-time greats in rugby - but he'd had nephrotic syndrome so he'd never even played with a full set of kidneys or in good health. He died of a related heart attack.

[MissTerious2]

There are also mental health issues that are at the root of being overweight. And also physical disabilities and disorders. I find your post rather naive and quite insulting Douglas.