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For more on marking an answer as the "Best Answer", please visit our FAQ.One_mad_cow - I (like everyone who has posted here) have to make assumptions as none of know the full facts - I just choose to say what my assumptions are, which I would have thought makes me better.
Still confused though, as if you are "just about to turn 18" and have been with your boyfriend for 18 months, you cannot have been more than 15 1/2 when you first started going out with him. So going out with him "just before your 16th Birthday" is a strange thing to say.
You have also not mentioned anything about 'your' house or your job security etc which I pointed out.
You have asked a question, and have asked for answers. I am simply clarifying the situation before answering blindly. Surely you wouldn't want anyone to make a judgement without knowing the full facts?
Surely I am not discriminating by asking pertinent questions?
And I do think before I post.
If I was 15 and a half then we would have been together for 2 years now... there is no law about having a boyfriend at the tender age of 15 is there? I shall have to enquire about that one with him, he is after all a police officer. My house is rented yes, therefore not my "own" but it's where I live and my current address which pretty much makes it my home. If this wasn't a steady job then they wouldn't have agreed to let me back after maternity leave, would they? If you don't like the things I say, don't get involved =) there are plenty more threads for you to involve yourself and pessimistic views in.
As for the people that have supported me in this, you'll all be glad to know that baby is fine, I had my scan yesterday and baby is 13cms already! Explains why my bump is so big =P Got my next scan on 4th April so guess the sex if you like, I'm going to find out =)
one_mad_cow
Firstly, congratulations, I hope the baby continues to be healthy.
Secondly, I would just like to pint out, that all I have done is ask questions about your postings. I have not looked down on you at any stage, just purely asked for clarification as (to my mind) things were not clear.
Thirdly, are you really asking questions but not listening to anyone you don't agree with - if so, what's the point is asking a question?
And finally, I sincerely wish you all the best in the future. Things will be hard for you (perhaps more so because of your age) and I hope that you don't prejudge people in the same way that you don't want judging yourself.
If her boyfriend has just become a policeman (is of a similar age -18 - to onemadcow, then there really is no problem)
Is she crying out for sympathy - possibly, possibly not. Maybe she just wanted to know what other poeple's opinion was - this is what everybody does every day. I get changed in themornings and put on a suit as I want people to look at me in a certain way - this is not a cry for help - it is just getting poeple to make certain prejudgements about me.
Would you take Legal opinion from someone you had never met before and was dressed like a tramp - or would you rather trust someone in a suit and tie. Appearances do matter - and I think that this is where one_mad_cow is coming from.
I couldn't give a flying toss whether you approve of one mad cow's pregnancy or not, there is no need to treat her with such contempt.
justincase my boyfriend is actually 22 and is in his 4th year as an officer. Age is just a number at the end of the day and as long as we're happy that's all that matters to me, I posted this to see why people gave such dirty looks to us. Maybe one day it could happen to your children, I did not purposely get pregnant, I wanted a strong marriage and a bit more age to go with my children but when it actually happens to you, things change. Yes I am a teenager, what if I was 20? I wouldn't be a teenager, so probably not get as much grief off shallow minded people like yourself.
I really couldn't care less if you believe I was on the pill or not, people's body's work in different ways, we don't all run like clockwork and have everything perfect and "the way it should be". At the end of the day, you just come here to look down upon people, look at your own life and see what makes you such a horrible person, you'd be surprised what you find when you come to terms with things =)
Well don't we know that justincase is a man. The Depo injection is also referred to as the pill... people call it the pill injection =)
Yes I started seeing my boyfriend when I was 15 but we didn't have sex until I was almost 17... therefore there is nothing wrong with when our relationship started.
One good thing came from my insults, he now know how it feels to have someone look down at you =)