Last night

[lifeandsold]

I tried what you suggested, when my wife started her nightly intergogation about work, secretary etc, I brushed it off and said that I hadn't really talked to her today, made it an unimportant point, so then she askes why I am being cagey and what have I got to hide? What goes on in womens heads!!!

[4getmenot]

see thats exactly what I said about treating her nice, any slight change in you she will think somethings up. You cant win.

[CushtyFred]

Your wife needs a good sh@gging mate!

[redcrx]

have you thought about quitting your job?

[gleaveyweave]

I read your previous thread on this subject and have to agree with the people that said your wife is picking up on the fact that you are attracted to your secretary (which is obvoius from how you talk about her), therefore, i'm afraid that you can't really win here. The question is, why is your wife so insecure, have you ever had an affair in the past? Maybe you are very flirty? It has to be something, women secure in their marriages don't just suddenly go all possesive and jealous for no reason. If you genuinely do not know why your wife is like this (and I have to say, she won't be enjoying feeling like this at all, so bear that in mind too), you will just have to help her to feel more secure by giving her more attention etc and just be honest with her, if you try to "protect" her feelings by not being truthful about your day, she will think you certainly have something to hide. Good luck.

[Mr Tall]

Get a new secretary.

[ummmm1]

Just say 'stop nagging me woman'

She should stop going on about it then.....

[Hellion]

Both my sister and I have worked as PA's in the past and the first rule of a happy work relationship is 'Get on with the boss's wife'! We both developed good relationships with our bosses wives and were able to remind bosses of important things like birthday's, school plays etc Dropping unsubtle hints about what their wives would like for their birthday and so on. A good secretary can actually be a bonus in a wife's life not a threat.
Explain problem to your secretary and then invite your wife into work to meet your secretary.
If your wife is stuck at home with kids her confidence is probably low right now and her husband spending all day with an attractive girl is not going to help.
Don't bother trying to have and affair with your secretary - it's a tired old cliche and eventually you'll have to leave your wife, marry your secretary and then she will be the one at home giving you a hard time about your secretary!!!

[liquidspace]

I dont agree that you should tell your secretary about your jealous wife, that would only give your secretary ammunition (in case she actually fancies you!) and it isnt fair on your wife. It dimishes respect for your wife. You should not be telling your secretary information that is personal to you - stick to work stuff.

You need to show your wife that you love her as she is doubting that right now (probably with good reason). Give her much more affection, cuddles, smiles etc.

[naz_nomad]

Have you heard the old ''no smoke without fire'' saying?