Hi Ruby..I def believe everything happens for a reason. We go through some really horrendous times,but,sometimes,we have a happy life because of it anyway!
I think that the "reason" is usually a cause. You do something, or a situation in your life happens, and you react to it. Most of the time there is no "reason" involved. I like the quote "Life is what happens to you when you're busy planning something else." John Lennon, I think.
'I have no philosophy, nor piety, nor patience, no art of reflection, no theory of compensation to meet things so hideous, so cruel, and so mad, they are just unspeakably horrible and irremediable to me and I stare at them with angry and almost blighted eyes' - Henry James