I am soooo sorry! x I know this must hurt as you obviously still love him very much. I would suggest for you both to live a little, you have the money to and your children aren't exactly babies, so maybe you could leave them with a relative while you and your partner shoot off somewhere fun and exciting, try and do things you used to do before you had the children and hopefully bring the old spark back. People together for so long can't see why they are with that person until reminded why they fell for them. Remember to make time for each other, sit down and talk and understand each other, if you can't do this I would suggest couple counselling, it can really help to talk about your problems to a complete stranger because they can't comment on your relationship. This must be awful and I really do feel for you and your children, but maybe do a few things together and get used to each others company again. Good Luck xxx