Hi Maggie, I have been with my partner for just over ten years and a few years ago I went through a horrendous stage of being unfaithful and entered a path to self destruction. Throughout that time I treated my partner terribly and nearly broke up someone elses marriage, which obviously I deeply regret and deservedly live with the guilt. I completely and utterly had no respect for myself or anyone else. Thankfully, one day I realised that what I was doing was a terrible thing and turned my life around completely and haven't looked back. Anyway, I think your husband is being extremley selfish, as I was. During that period in my life I always kept my partner hanging on the end of a string, cruel I know. It sounds like your husband is doing the same. Although, this may be (and it's no exuse) a phase? Lust doesn't last. I realised that my partner is my sole mate and we have such a strong bond, I will never in my life treat him the way I did ever again, he is very precious to me. I think in time your husband will realise that too, although don't put your life on hold as my partner did, it nearly killed him.