gleaveyweave, I am so sorry to hear that your soon-to-be-ex husband did this to you. I can only echo everyone else's sentiments-you are just a million of him, and you should be so proud. It is hard now, but as Donna says, just think how you'll look back in 5 years and realise what a t*sser he is, and how the other women are welcome to him, pathetic loser that he is.
I know what you are going through, although I don't have kids so at least the pain was only my own. Be strong, petal. Much love.