What to Wear to a Funeral?

[Wotsits31]

Unfortunately I am going to a funeral this week and the late Mrs H has requested that no-one is to wear black as the service is to be one of celebration of life and not mourning. Any ideas what to wear?
I've seen a gorgeous red top in Whistles which I could wear with black trousers and a nice colourful scarf, but is red a bit much for a funeral despite the departed's request........

[ELVIS68]

Not at all, the black trousers and red top sound fine, but why the scarf?

[jno]

nope, sounds just right - obviously you'd normally wear something dark but as she specifically requested otherwise, then the cheerier the better. (Black trousers only should be ok, but you could probably get away with something lighter even there.) I suppose she had in mind what you'd wear to a party.

[China Doll]

Absolutely not Wotsits, it sounds perfect.

[jno]

Elvis, it's nippy this time of year, if you're going outside. Apologies if you're currently in the Sahara somewhere.

[ELVIS68]

Ok ...point taken jno

[slinkycat]

Go for it wotsits, if its supposed to be a celebration of life then why not wear something colourful

[ELVIS68]

It`s been done lots of times but i`ve only ever seen the widow who`s dressed in colours, no-one else has the bottle to turn up not wearing black....apart from the priest

[unrulyjulie]

I dont want anyone to wear black at my funeral . Celebrate life!

[jno]

If you're holding it this weekend I'm free, julie

[lindapinda]

I don't see any problem with what you're thinking of Wotsits ;-) The main thing is that you want to go to the church to celebrate her life. I actually had a really bitchy girl try to discuss with me how she could get over the problem of how not to have her fake tanned legs being ruined by the rain,when the mother of one of our workmates died,and this girl decided to go to the funeral even though she disliked her workmate!!! She was just going to be there for the show !!

[unrulyjulie]

not this weekend jno, i hope not anyhow! :-)

[VillageVicar]

I see nothing wrong in your selection. The widow has made a request and it�s appropriate to honour her request. Interestingly, there�s always the veiled line of social acceptability. I celebrated a funeral last month where the family requested that those attending dress for �celebrating her husband�s life and not mourning.�

The service was at our local crematory. Everyone was dressed as I would have imagined; nothing dark, generally what one might describe as professional office attire�except for one couple. The young man had on jeans and a bright orange t-shirt that had an advert for B&Q on the back. His partner, who somewhat resembled a saveloy with a string tied in the middle, wore a half-length white t-shirt. Emblazoned in large pink letters, trimmed with a diamante Motif was the word �sexy,�

It just lead me to ponder on what they might have worn to a �casual� occasion.

Your choice is fine and I know your friend will be grateful for your attendance.

Be well

Fr Bill

[bill preston]

wotsits....... i think it sounds wonderful what your going to be wearing!

Fr Bill............. glad you didnt decide to leave!

[O'Reilly]

Mrs Bucket ......."next funeral I go to I'll be wearing a coffin" ROFLMFAO

[bensmum]

Sounds perfect - I bet you'll be amazed at what some people turn up in though!
(welcome back Fr Bill!)

[VillageVicar]

Bill & Bensmum, thank you for your kind words! Bill, did you ever try the soy sauce....as I recall, you were considering that as an option on beef? Grey hair...maybe I have it wrong!

Be well

Fr Bill