Is there sometime wrong with me?

[loublou1971]

We have been together for nearly two years, recently got married, but we are always falling out. I know we love each other, but just seem to battle, and i just makes me ill, i'm suffering with an ailment at the moment on top of the other two i normally suffer from. Which puts even more stress on our daily life, i really don't know what to do. We do try to communicate, but i feel like he does not listen. Which hurts and just seems to bring out the worst in my health. I eat healthy, i'm not overweight.Don't drink or smoke. What causes this reaction in my health. Any suggestions? He seems to go into his 'cave' alot. Leaving me to deal with everything. As you can guess. We are spending Saturday evening in not talking. Help please

[persianlady]

Sounds to me your health problems are exacerbated by the stress of your relationship. I suffer from psoraisis and it always flares up if I get upset about something. Have you thought about both of you having some counselling?

[ELVIS68]

Have you thought about kicking his arse into touch?

Car oil on the carpet?...WTF are you asking people on here for?...fook him off the no good bastad

Cave my arse!

[China Doll]

Without meaning to be offensive you sound quite negative at the moment and perhaps if you're like that in your everyday life then maybe this stresses your partner out and he shuts down. Also if he knows how ill you are he might not want to say anything to upset you so he doesn't.

Maybe you should look on the positive side a bit more, you have a partner who loves you and wants to be with you and yeah he may not be perfect but who is? Perhaps if he sees you feeling more positive he'll be more responsive towards you and this will in turn help the stress and you illnesses.

[loublou1971]

I know he would not go. I went for counselling last year and did not feel it helped, i understood more about my reactions to things, but did not solve the health problems. There is a famous poem about not stepping on your dreams, well i just learnt that when someone stamped all over them, i react. badly.
I will find a way for us to get some sort of help. Thanks.

[loublou1971]

China, i see your point, it's actually me who keeps things positive most of the time, i get on with things. He just seems to make it all harder for us both, and will not listen. I can;t get him to see. i don't nag. I;m just finding it very hard trying to explain things and see that it hurts. Am i just too soft?

[China Doll]

I don't know. I don't know you so I couldn't answer that. Maybe it's just cause you're letting off steam on the net but to me you're coming off a little self centred and focusing on all the negative about him and your life. What about the good bits?

Sometimes we all get bogged down in the hum drum and forget to look at the things we do have going for us.

[Reverandfunk]

Without meaning to sound harsh, if he was like it before you got married why were you expecting a change?

Leopard, spots and all that