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[delsgirl]

Last Friday my partner came home in a really bad mood. He went for a nap and came back downstairs a couple of hours later. I was really nice and said do you feel better and he exploded again. He ranted and raved all evening, I always call Friday nights our night as its the night my kids go to their fathers for the night. Anyway he was absolutely awful and said how much he really really hated me and he does not fancy me ( im always complaining that we never have sex as he has his own bedroom due to a bad back, which has been great recently (his back). I get the impression he was upset before he got home. I have not spoken to him since, and he pretended on 2 occasions that nothing had happened, the cheeky swine and even asked if i wanted to go for our usual drink, I refused of course as i wouldnt want to be with someone who hated me. Is he just a weird Aquarian ? Or just picking a fight on fridays to go out with his mates

[China Doll]

What's his star sign got to do with it? He's been a complete arse and the realtionship sounds far from a happy one and maybe you both either need to look in to ways of changing that or split up and find people who do make you happy.

His star sign really is beg all to do with anything.

[delsgirl]

Quoi om not much good with abbreviations what the PM? and how do i get it ?and Chinadoll im making light of it all by blaming the starsign thing,

[China Doll]

Oh right... I did wonder! I still think he's being a pleb though.

Go on to sports bank and login with your same user details you have for AB and then you should be able to see your messages. Either that or user Beta AB.

[Ice.Maiden]

delsgirl hun - I hope it works out for you both, but by not speaking to your partner, and refusing to go out with him, you're still not getting to the root of the problem. He's having his cake and eating it -going off skiing, going off out, treating you like dirt when he rants away at you, and yet you're not really telling him how you feel or think. The longer you're submissive, the more he'll take advantage. Wait until he seems in a better mood, and then try and tackle the problem head on. Tell him you won't speak to him if he shouts. If that makes no difference, I can't see your relationship going anywhere but down. When you've more confidence in yourself, you won't accept this situation.

[delsgirl]

Thanks ice-maiden, but he hates people not talking to him so i am stading up for myself, as its the complete opposite of what he wants me to do. He is definately looking for reactions and dramas, my cool couldnt care less definately does more harm to him as im not feeding his attention seeking. So no he is not getting his cake and eating it. Im a very busy woman and he feels left out and makes out and threatens because he's lonely for my attention. I have 2 teenagers and we live busy lives, but it does not fit in with what he wants, so tough to him, he shouldnt have come into a young family.

[delsgirl]

By the way my confidence is great, I look great and feel great, thats also a problem for him as im 10 years younger than him, and he knows i get looks. its all his own doing, But im not lowering myself to his ways of shouting abuse, I have dignity.

[cazzz1975]

I think regardless of everything, he sounds like he wants out, he rarely sleeps with you, he is disrespectful to you and he doesnt sound like he likes you.

If he loved you and wanted to be with you he would include you in his family, be your best friend, share your bed, not insult you or treat you like nothing. Im not sure what part of this relationship is making you want to cling on??!

[Thunderchild]

perhaps its time to tell him to walk ? hell your the one he's supposed to share his problems with not take them out on you. whos house are you both living in ?

[angel-cake]

I haven't read all the post thoroughly as there were so many! But I think i am repeating people here....

I honestly think this relationship seems a waste of your time. My opinion is that he has cheated on you (obviously i dont know but this is my guess from the little bit you have told us). He is feeling guilty and by causing friction this eases his guilt because then he has an 'excuse' for his betrayal. The lack of sex is a huge factor in a relationship . If the reason was purely medical, you would both find other ways to 'please' each other.

The beginning of the end of one of my previous relationships started with no snogging, followed by no sex, followed by him constantly sleeping on the couch, and him living a life that involved me less and less.

I really hope you manage to do something to make you happy because it is so awful to be in a relationship that is dying a slow death.

(and i hope i haven't been harsh with what ive said)

[delsgirl]

Thanks to you all for you comments. All is well i went out with my mates on Friday, one of our mutual male friends came back with me and we sat talking and having a great laught, my partner heard the voices, came down and was fine that it was out mutual mate, but it gave him a real shock to hear a male voice, and he thought id gone through with my threat of finding someone else, any way it was shock enough, to ge thim all over me on Saturday and fess up to just wanting more quality time with me on my own, and jealous of other people getting my time etc etc, the rat race of life is the biggest thing. Anyway all is well for the time being, but im sure we will have another barney about it all again when we both tired etc. But cheers to all of you for taking the tiem to reply. Hope you all had a great weekend, mine turned out great.