I had an abortion

[karmgirl]

nearly 3 years ago. I constantly think about it and am sad still about it. The thing that worries me most is not being able to ever have a baby? Or what if I can't have a baby because I don't find a partner?

Those are the two things that really worry me. Anyone else in the same boat.

I got pregnant at 18 and bf didnt want it and I couldn't provide a roof, food, money etc on my own. even the job centre said u shouldn't get pregnant just to get benefits but I wasn't trying to get pregnant for a council house or benefits it was just a mistake and so I had an abortion

[karmgirl]

Thank you everyone, it helps to hear your words of comfort and advice xx

[sara3]

you have to consider what you could have offered this child. you must have weighed up the consequences at the time, and you made the right decision for you and the child. don't give yourself a hard time. plenty take the other route and knock out kids to get more benefits and bigger housing.

hold your head up high. none of us know what the future holds. be positive and move on from this. regret is a terrible waste of emotions.

take care x

[Goodsoulette]

Everyone has given you lovely advice and you really should try to take it on board. A termination can be a very traumatising thing, clearly, you haven't had enough counseling. Phone your local Family Planning Centre, explain to them that you had a termination 3 years ago and feel that it is still effecting you and ask them to set up an appointment with their counselors. It's a free service but if they wont help you, you can receive free counseling at your doctors surgery.

If there were no complications during the procedure then there is no reason why you shouldn't go on to have children. I had a termination as a teenager myself (a silly mistake) and then had another one when I got pregnant whilst on dianette and also steroids for asthma, so really felt I had no choice. I have two healthy children and many, many other women do go on to have bouncing babies after previously having a termination.

Make sure you practice safe sex until a time you do want to have children as there are of course silent diseases that could effect your fertility.